Red Flags in a Girlfriend: When a Relationship Turns Abusive

Violence, threats and fear count the first time. For everything else, most red-flag lists treat one behaviour as a verdict, and three questions do better: does it repeat, does it limit your freedom or safety, and does it change when you raise it? Here is how they sort phone checks, silence, family money and jealousy, and what 585 strangers told people who asked if it was normal.