Lunch at her parents' house, third visit. Her aunt: Noi's husband pays her mother every month and built them a house.

Later, give her plain facts about your work and money to answer with

Smile, say nothing and never bring it up

First date, a cafe you suggested. She: Let me pay half.

Ask what she'd like: split it if she wants, or pay and let her treat you next time

Insist on paying, this time and every time

Split every bill to the baht from now on, without asking

Weeks before the engagement, her mother speaks through her. Her mother: Daughters in our village got 600,000 baht.

Agree a ceiling with her first, then decide together how to put it to her parents

Say foreigners don't pay sin sod

You told her early that you won't pay sin sod. She: It's fine. It's not your culture.

Ask whether she plans to pay it herself

Planning the household budget before the wedding. She: I send my parents something every month.

Ask what and from what, then agree a monthly figure you can keep up

Ask her to stop once you're married

Tell her to send whatever they ask

Finding a Wife in Thailand: Meeting, Courting and Marrying

Name: What happened to sin sod with a foreign partner or husband, as Thai women tell it on Pantip
Creator: HeyCrush
Published: 2026-10-11

To find a Thai wife, meet women the ordinary way, at work, through friends or on a dating app, and say early that you want marriage. Then talk about more than dates: where you'd live, what you earn and owe, and what each of you expects to put into a shared household.

HeyCrush Editorial Researched and drafted with AI tools · How we write

Published August 28, 2016 · Updated October 12, 2026 · 30 min read

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Contents · 9 sections

How to find a Thai wife: where couples who marry actually meet Thai women marrying foreign men: what the official numbers say What Thai women say about marrying a foreigner Who pays on dates in Thailand, and what your spending tells her How to show a Thai woman you want marriage, not a holiday fling A Thai wife and her parents: what supporting them means for your household Sin sod: the Thai bride price, and how to talk about it Marrying a Thai woman: registration, prenup and taking her home Finding an Asian wife: common questions

How to find a Thai wife: where couples who marry actually meet

Finding a wife in Thailand starts the way it does anywhere: you meet women who want what you want, somewhere you can see each other more than once. In practice that means work or study, friends who introduce you, ordinary daytime life in a city where you stay long enough for a second date, and dating apps where you say up front that you’re looking for marriage. Online works when messages move to video calls and then to a visit you’ve actually planned: a city, a date, who travels and who pays.