Thai dating culture uses steps you'll recognize, from chatting and dates to meeting her friends and family, but who is watching can change what a moment means. Affection, arguments and family invitations may be judged by her elders, strangers or her online circle, so ask her privately what is fine where before deciding what her behavior means.
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Most of this page comes from what Thai women have written, in Thai, about couples, family and foreign partners, which we counted for our own study, and from readers of this site; it covers the moments that are easy to misread. If you came for the word interracial: it describes a relationship between people of different races, while a cross-cultural relationship is between people of different cultures, and a couple can be one without being the other. Neither label tells you what she wants.
Thai women dating culture: what is dating in Thailand like for a foreigner?
Dating in Thailand as a foreigner means learning two things early: how much affection she is comfortable showing in public, and how involved she wants her family to be. The steps are familiar. Part of the audience, though, may already have decided what a Thai woman with a foreign man must want, which is covered under being seen with a foreign man, further down.
To check this page against Thai women’s own words, in October 2026 we counted what 47 Thai women wrote in 11 threads on the Thai web forum Pantip between 2013 and 2025, about affection in public, a couple photo posted online, being looked at, family and money, and fights. We counted each poster once, and as a woman only when her own posts use Thai’s female word endings, such as kha.
Each woman is counted under the one topic her posts are mainly about, so the topic counts add up to 47: 17 on affection in public (2 of them on the law), 2 on the sniff kiss, 9 on being looked at, 11 on fights, 4 on family and money, 3 on meeting a partner’s family and 1 on a long-distance start.
Of the 47, 18 say they have a foreign partner or husband. Most sections below give the count for their own question. The threads on affection were mostly about Thai couples, and these are women who chose to post, so the counts show what they wrote, not how common anything is or how her family will react.
The myths that set foreign men up to fail are the ones that skip her side of it. Thailand is not “easy”. A woman who wants a relationship can read a lot from your timetable, your manners and whether you are the same man in front of her friends as you are alone. Not every Thai woman wants a foreigner, and not every foreigner is rich. A man on a short trip who talks about love in the first week can look like a man after a holiday romance, whatever he means; living in Thailand, or coming back to the same city, gives her time to see who you are.
Casual dating and hookups exist in Thai cities as they do anywhere; the etiquette on this page is for the man who wants to be seen with her.
Give it time. Meet women through work, classes, friends and ordinary daytime places, and be willing to be introduced slowly. A short clock, wanting to rescue or be rescued, or treating every cultural difference as a test she is failing all make it harder.
What kind of men do Thai women like? The Thai women quoted further down praise a man who stays the same after the first weeks, a husband who learned to keep his temper, and one who stands up for his wife when people talk down to Thai women; for more, see what Thai women are like. For where and how to meet women, start with dating in Thailand and how to meet Thai women.
If you’re asking which app: HeyCrush, the app behind this site, is being built for meeting someone between the East and the West; it’s waitlist-only until it launches, so it can’t introduce you to anyone yet.
What is a sniff kiss (hom kaem) in Thailand?
A sniff kiss, hom kaem (หอมแก้ม) in Thai, is a kiss given with the nose against someone’s cheek rather than with the lips. Hom means fragrant, and as a verb it means to smell, or to kiss with the nose 1.
It is a gesture of affection, and not only between couples. A Thai forum thread from 2014 asking why people do it listed children, lovers, husbands and wives, brothers and sisters, crushes and even pets, and the replies called it a way of showing love and wanting to be close. So if you are asking “why does my Thai girlfriend sniff me”, affection is the plain answer. On its own, it doesn’t tell you how serious she is about you.
That thread is the only one in our count where women say what the sniff kiss means: 2 women in it said it shows love. None of the 47 wrote about sniff-kissing a foreign partner, so what follows about where she does it is our reading of the gesture, not something they told us.
Where she does it is a clue. A sniff kiss at home or in the car is affection between the two of you. A sniff kiss in front of her friends suggests she is comfortable being seen with you. If she pulls back in front of her parents, their expectations are one possible reason; ask her about it in private rather than guessing. Give it back the same way, and keep it for the places she does. If you’re not sure she’d like one back, ask; either of you can say no to any touch, even somewhere you’ve been affectionate before.
Can you kiss your girlfriend in public in Thailand?
Thailand’s public-indecency law, section 388 of the Criminal Code, does not name kissing; whether a kiss goes down well depends on where you are and who can see you.
That section is the law people half-remember. It sets a fine of up to 5,000 baht for an indecent act in front of the public, by stripping or exposing the body or by some other lewd act 2; the 5,000 baht figure comes from a 2015 amendment. It does not name kissing or hugging. That is not a ruling that every kiss is fine: whether something counts as “some other lewd act” depends on what happens and where, and that is a question for a licensed Thai lawyer, not for this page.
When someone asked on the Thai web forum Pantip whether hugging and kissing in public breaks the law, the Thai replies said no, unless it turns into nudity or sex (the 2 women in our count who wrote about the law both said so; that is their opinion on a forum, not a legal ruling), and several added that the law is not the only measure: there is kalatesa, a sense of time and place, and there are your parents’ feelings 3.
One reply in the same thread pointed out a double standard: people may only glance at two foreigners kissing, but Thais who do it are told they are not acting Thai 3. That is one person’s view in one thread, but it is worth asking her about: the tolerance some people show two foreigners may not extend to her, and if people do talk, it may be her they talk about. Ask her what she is comfortable with where, rather than going by what you see tourists do.
Do Thai couples kiss? Yes. In public, follow her comfort in the particular place. A Thai thread asking what couples can do in public without looking bad got answers ranging from holding hands only to arm in arm, an arm round the waist and a kiss on the head, and one woman wrote that even holding hands gets people asking whether her parents know. Temples, her family’s house and her home town are the places to be most careful. If you have a specific worry about the law, a licensed Thai lawyer is the person to ask.
Thai women don’t agree on where the line is. In our count, 17 of the 47 wrote about affection in public: 5 said it’s fine, 4 said only a light touch such as holding hands or a hand on the head, 3 said only in private or after the wedding, 4 said it depends on the place and who is there, and 1 didn’t say. For 4 of the 17, a couple not being married was the reason it draws a reaction.
Most of these posts were about Thai couples, not foreign men, so they tell you what these women think, not how people will react to the two of you.
Thailand’s public-indecency law doesn’t name kissing, but that isn’t permission for anything sexual in public, and Thai women don’t agree on where the line is. Ask her about the place you’re in, not about Thailand.
Physical intimacy in Thai dating culture: public, private and the photo
Physical intimacy in private follows the two of you; in public it follows the audience, and when public affection causes trouble, it can land on her family as well as on her.
A Thai woman in her early thirties wrote on Pantip in September 2015 about a photo a friend had posted: her, kissing her boyfriend’s cheek at a hotel jazz bar. She lived with him, and her parents knew. A relative abroad scolded her, her mother and her sister, and she apologised to her mother 4.
The replies separated the kiss from the photo. A mother wrote that a light kiss in the moment is fine, but a still photo online hammers it home, and parents may say nothing and still mind; other women said that because no wedding had been held, elders would read it as too open 4. Of the 11 women in that thread, 4 said the problem was putting the picture online, not the kiss; the rest said the kiss was fine, or that it came down to marriage or to her parents.
In her case, her parents knowing about the relationship did not mean they approved of every picture of it. Affection, permission to photograph it, and permission to share the photograph are three separate questions. Ask before you post any couple photo: her relatives may be in her friends list, and the scolding can go to her mother, not to you.
Her parents knowing about you isn’t permission to post. The kiss, the photo and the sharing are three separate yeses, and only she can give them.
Quick poll
Before you post a photo of the two of you, should you ask her first?
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If she is warm at home and keeps her distance in the mall, the same logic applies: the contrast makes the setting worth asking her about. If she also pulls away when you are alone, the audience isn’t the explanation. It may be tiredness, a mood, how she likes to be touched, or something about the two of you; ask her gently, and accept a no without needing a reason.
In private there is no Thai timetable for sex: no “three-day rule”, and no count of dates you should be checking off. Go at a pace you both want, never push, and don’t read her agreeing to dinner or to come back for a drink as agreeing to anything else; either of you can stop at any point.
Reader poll
In front of her parents, what’s fine for a couple who aren’t married yet?
Being seen with a foreign man: what people may assume about her
Strangers may read her through a stereotype when she is out with you, and how you behave in public can add to it or not. A Thai research summary of a Mahidol University and University of Sussex project notes that Thai society tends to see women who marry Western men as looking for a better life 5; the project interviewed people in five Thai provinces and in England, and the summary gives no sample size, so it describes a view the researchers met, not what every stranger thinks. She did not choose that reading, and it can follow her into a restaurant with you.
Two Thai women married to foreign men, one living in Thailand and one visiting from England, wrote about people staring at them when they are out with their husbands in Thailand, in a 2016 Pantip thread. The first asked other Thais what they think when they see a Thai woman with a foreign man, and listed the options herself: envy, nothing, or that she is a sex worker.
They were 2 of the 9 women in our count who wrote about being looked at, in two threads about Thai women out with foreign husbands: 6 described stares or a stereotype, 2 said it doesn’t matter to them, and 1 wrote instead that her husband never looked down on her.
A stare on its own doesn’t tell you what someone thinks: the first woman’s own list ran from envy to nothing to a stereotype. The prejudice isn’t hers or yours to answer for, but you can agree with her how you’d both like to be out together: how dressed up, how much affection where people can see, who pays, and what to do about a remark. Showing off money or ordering for the table rarely helps either of you.
Some people may judge her on sight, and that prejudice is theirs, not hers or yours. Agree with her how you’d both like to dress, spend and touch in public, and how to answer a remark.
Na (หน้า) means face, and figuratively reputation or dignity; sia na (เสียหน้า) is to lose face, and a Thai dictionary’s own example is a child whose bad behavior makes the parents lose face too 6.
One Thai woman, married more than 17 years to a Swiss man, wrote that her husband tells off anyone who talks down to Thai women, and that a wife should ask her husband to stand up for her. Being on her side is the right instinct; how you show it is her call. Ask her, before it happens, how she’d want you to respond: a calm word, leaving together, or backing her up afterwards may serve her better than a scene, which costs face of its own. For the wider etiquette of temples, feet, heads and greetings, see what is disrespectful in Thai culture.
Quick poll
If a stranger makes a remark about her while you’re out together, what should you do?
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Raising your voice in public: how face shapes an argument
Shouting in public, at her, a waiter or a taxi driver, risks embarrassing her as well as you. Arguments still happen; Thai couples argue like anyone. Where you have them matters.
In June 2018, replying to a woman after a bad fight with her foreign boyfriend, a Thai wife wrote that her own husband used to flare up and speak first. He slowly learned to think before speaking, and her father said they were lucky he changed, because it showed he really loved her 7. The useful part is the change she could describe: not “he understands Thai culture now”, but “he thinks before he speaks”.
Don’t turn this into a stereotype in the other direction. A reader on the old version of this page called “Thais don’t like to argue” a stereotype of its own: Thai people get angry and sometimes lash out, the reader wrote, and younger Thais are getting louder 8. The point is not that she never disagrees. Disagreement in front of other people can simply be a bigger event.
After a fight, ask what hurt: the decision, the words, the volume, or who was there to hear it. You can keep your position on the decision and still fix how you handled it.
When “maybe” means no: kreng jai, refusals and the Thai smile
A soft “maybe”, a smile or a change of subject can be a polite no. Kreng jai (เกรงใจ) means being considerate of other people’s feelings and not wanting to cause them trouble or annoyance, and it can make a refusal so gentle that a foreigner hears a yes.
This section is our reading of the word, not a finding. The words kreng jai, wai and sia na (losing face) don’t appear in the 11 threads we counted. That shows what those threads were about, not that it doesn’t matter to Thai women.
The gap runs both ways. A Thai woman married seven years to a German man described him as warm, punctual and honest, but sometimes so blunt with colleagues that she has to tell him to brake 9. What sounds honest to him can sound harsh to the people around him, and what sounds polite to her can sound vague to you.
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When she answers a plan with “maybe”, what do you hear?
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The fix is to make no easy to say. “Would you like to, or would you rather do something else?” gives her a door. Treat a “maybe” with no plan as unconfirmed: leave room for another suggestion, and don’t push for a yes. The Thai smile works the same way: a smile can cover embarrassment, apology or nerves as well as happiness, so a smile alone does not tell you she agrees. When she goes quiet for days rather than saying no, that is a different problem, covered in what to do when your girlfriend gives you the silent treatment.
A maybe with no plan isn’t a yes, and a smile alone doesn’t tell you she agrees. Make no easy to say.
How long do Thai couples date before marriage? Exclusivity, the “promotion” and long distance
There is no fixed time Thai couples date before marriage, and no national number would fit your relationship. Introductions, to her friends, to her family, or as her boyfriend, are good moments to ask what the relationship means to each of you.
Being introduced as her faen (แฟน: a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife) can come before any conversation about being exclusive. If she calls you that in front of her friends, she has told them something. If you are not sure what it means to her, ask in private and say what it means to you; nothing is gained by waiting for her to raise it.
One Thai woman praised her English boyfriend for being attentive all the time, “not just during the promotion”, borrowing the shop word (โปรโมชั่น) for an opening offer to describe a man’s early best behavior. Being the same man in month six as in week one is worth aiming for.
If you met online, meet in person as soon as you reasonably can. Long-distance couples do make it: a Thai woman married to a German man wrote that they spent two years long-distance, on calls and video, before marrying 9. A woman who keeps postponing the meeting while money starts coming up is a warning sign, not a culture difference; see how to tell if a woman online is scamming you.
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After you start talking online, how soon should you meet in person?
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On calls, remember you see a screen, not the room. Suppose she is affectionate by message but cool on a video call: someone may be sitting next to her. Ask whether she has privacy, then accept the answer. For keeping a long-distance relationship going, see long distance relationships with a Thai girlfriend.
Her family’s role in a Thai relationship
Her family may be part of the relationship from early on, and that can mean anything from being kept informed to having the final say.
Treat meeting her family as an important visit; how you behave there counts for more than your gift. Greet her parents with a wai, palms pressed together with a slight bow, once she has shown you how, call them by the titles she uses, and let the elders (phu yai) lead. Ask what name her family uses for her, often a nickname (chue len), and whether she’d like you to use it. For words that help, see cute Thai phrases for dating, and for the visit itself, meeting your Thai girlfriend’s parents.
Of the 3 women in our count who wrote about meeting a partner’s family, 2 gave the same advice for the visit: smile and keep it simple.
A reader on the old version of this page, who wrote that he had lived in Thailand over twenty years and been married to a Thai woman over ten, said every decision she makes revolves around family. It irritated him at first; now he appreciates it 10. That is his account of one marriage, not his wife’s explanation or a promise about yours.
Discuss the actual decision. Is she keeping her family informed, asking their advice, or saying their preference must decide what you both do? Those are different arrangements, and you may be fine with the first two and not the third.
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How much say should her parents have in your big decisions as a couple?
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Daily calls home are not a sign she is ignoring you. Helping her parents with money is the hardest of these to talk about: in a Thai thread where women with foreign husbands compared their fights, one recalled Thai wives of Western men at a temple in Australia saying they sent money home in secret, because if he found out the fight lasted days. How to talk about it, and about sin sod, is covered in finding a wife in Thailand and what it can mean when a Thai girlfriend asks for money.
In our count, 4 women wrote about family and money, and all 4 said people at home assume a foreign boyfriend is rich or should pay for the family. Their replies to each other: foreigners are rich or poor like anyone, her mother’s opinion doesn’t decide who she dates, she can move out with him and start her own household, and many families do come to see a foreign man as just a person. Four women is a small count; it shows that these women had to deal with the assumption, not that families expect money.
Her family may assume you’re rich before they’ve met you, and she is the one who has to answer that. Agree between you what you’ll both say before anyone asks.
Ask our readers
What should a foreign boyfriend know before he meets your family?
If you’re Thai, tell the men reading this what your parents notice first, what impresses them and what puts them off. If you’re the boyfriend who has been there, tell them what you wish you’d known.
Thai girlfriend problems: culture clashes you can fix and the ones to talk through
In the posts we counted, the fights Thai women describe with foreign partners are mostly about daily life, not language: when you go to bed and eat, how you message, whether you turn up on time. That is what a few women in a few threads wrote, not a pattern for every couple. For any of them, the useful question is what the habit means to each of you, and what change you would both accept.
A Thai woman who dated a Western man for two years before marrying him wrote that living apart was easy and living together was hard: language can be learned, but values nearly drove her mad, because what she thought was right was wrong to him.
In our count, 10 Thai women wrote about fights with a partner from abroad, most of them in one 2017 thread where women with foreign partners compared notes. Time together, such as going to bed, eating and waking up together, came up for 5 of the 10, a partner who sulks or gets hurt for 4, the first year for 3 and food for 2. 5 described the problem as settled (they say they adjusted or stopped fighting about it), 4 wrote about it as still going on, and 1 said they rarely or never fight. These are topics they mentioned, not what most couples fight about.
One, married to an American, listed religion (he wanted her to join his religion, and complained when she kept the precepts of her religion and wouldn’t swat mosquitoes) and her daily video calls with her family. Another, living in the Netherlands, said her husband sulked a lot in their first year, reading few messages as her talking to someone else and a straight face as boredom; after that year they adjusted and stopped fighting. A woman whose partner also sulked put it down to his personality, not his nationality, and one said they agreed on everything except time: he is precise, she was sometimes late, and he got very angry.
Sort them before you fight about them:
- Habits you can change: being on time, your volume, posting photos, bedtime, what you eat, how often you message.
- Values you talk through: support for her parents, religion, how children are raised, where you will live.
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Which would be hardest for you to adjust to with a Thai partner?
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One Thai woman with a Western partner of nearly four years described the method that worked for them: she never studied his culture or lectured him on hers. She said what she liked and how her family is, he said how he is, and they asked what each could accept or adjust.
For a habit, agree on one concrete change and check later whether it solved the problem. A clash over values ends when you agree on something you can both live with, or when you find out you can’t.
A habit change is something you both agree to: checking each other’s phone, demanding proof of loyalty, threats or punishment aren’t culture differences to work around, whoever does them. For problems that are about the two of you rather than about culture, see Thai girlfriend problems in a committed relationship.
Most of the fights these women describe are about daily life: bedtime, meals, sulking, being late. Sort habits from values, and for a habit agree one concrete change and check later whether it worked.
When to stop: red flags in a Thai relationship
Culture explains a lot, but it never explains a request for money from someone you have not met, a woman who refuses every video call for months (though a call happening doesn’t prove who she is either), or a story that keeps changing. Any one of these is a reason to slow down and ask questions, and you don’t need a second sign to say no to sending money. Two or three together are a reason to stop.
The hard part is the time you have already put in. Months of good-morning messages feel like something you would be throwing away, and that feeling is what a scammer counts on.
Stopping cleanly is simple. If you have already sent money, contact your bank first. Save the evidence before you block anyone: screenshots of the profile, the messages and any request for money. You don’t owe her a goodbye; if you send one, keep it short, don’t argue or accuse, and don’t send anything more. Then report the account on the platform and block it. Read how to tell if a woman online is scamming you before you decide.
How we put this page together: We read Thai women’s own posts on the Thai web forum Pantip, Thai dictionary entries for hom kaem and sia na, section 388 of the Thai Criminal Code in the Office of the Council of State’s official text, and reader comments on the old version of this page. Then, in October 2026, we ran our own count: 47 Thai women in 11 Pantip threads (2013 to 2025), each coded once against a codebook written first, for what she wrote about affection in public, a couple photo posted online, being looked at, family and money, and fights. Found: of 17 who wrote about affection in public, 5 said it is fine, 4 only a light touch, 3 only in private or after the wedding and 4 that it depends on the place and who is there; in the one photo thread 4 of 11 said the problem was posting the picture, not the kiss; 6 of 9 who wrote about being looked at, in two threads about Thai women out with foreign husbands, described stares or a stereotype; of 10 who wrote about fights with a partner from abroad, time together came up for 5 and sulking for 4, with 4 describing it as still going on, 5 as settled and 1 saying they rarely or never fight; all 4 who wrote about family and money said people at home assume a foreign boyfriend is rich. The words kreng jai, wai and sia na (losing face) do not appear in the 11 threads, so those parts of the page are our reading, and none described sniff-kissing a foreign partner. These are women who chose to post, mostly about Thai couples where affection is concerned: the count shows what they wrote, not how common anything is.
Why we made it: A man dating a Thai woman runs into moments he can’t read: a kiss she pulls back from in public, a photo that upsets her family, stares in a restaurant, a fight about bedtime. We made this page to answer those from Thai women’s own words, in Thai, and ran its count to see how far they agree and what they actually write about, instead of handing him a list of customs as rules.
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I appreciate the insight of these articles as I have very recently started a serious relationship with a very beautiful Thi woman. As a western man I have been Pagan since age 18 and my christian family members are the only ones I clash with in matters of spiritually. Still thanks to these articles many questions have been answered, so thanks again!
A lot of stereotypes here and overall very outdated. Thai men are almost nowhere to be seen in Thai offices. Virtually all the accounting roles are taken by women. In fact most office jobs of any type are largely taken by women and gay men/kathoeys. Thai men are either managers, work in IT or in blue collar roles. Or they are sitting at home drinking. Thai women can even be found on construction sites!! I have never seen a western woman working construction. More women attend university than men.
I don’t think the average Thai views men preferentially over women. That is a very dated stereotype. Men and women are virtually equal in Thailand. Only in Buddhism are men considered somewhat higher, but not in civil society. Thailand isn’t Saudi Arabia or even India. I find it ridiculous to hear such tired stereotypes being repeated all the time.
Nursing homes. Although still rather rare, it’s becoming increasingly common for middle class Thais especially those with little time and busy lives to send their elderly parents to nursing homes. More and more such facilities have opened in Thailand in recent years.
“There is still a lot of tension when dealing with in-laws. I don’t really think that this is avoidable, whatever your race or culture is. Still, the man does not really need to do favors for the family to prove himself worthy of their daughter’s hand. Often a long talk, followed by several tense family dinners will suffice.”
This is very small minded and not the case for MANY American relationships and marriages. Most of my “western” family and friends have great, easy-going relationships with their in-laws that never requires tense conversations. Way to go completely against what you said in the beginning about not favoring one society/culture over the other; clearly that is not the case.
If you really knew American culture you would realize that most of what you’re saying is either generalized, stereotypical, or just downright ignorant.
Yes, we enjoy freedom. No, most of us are not extremely religious. But we value family and relationships greatly, unlike you think we do, and many Americans are not outspoken like you say unless given reason…example: this post. Americans tend to be friendly and easy-going to strangers of all races, cultures, sexual preferences, ect. You have only defined a small marginal part of America that you are casting to the world, and shame on you.
Knowing it would be too difficult for anybody to write about cultural differences in such a condensed format, I think it is just as important to know why certain cultures have changed a small amount over time and some a great deal as that would give us a truer insight to why our differences may be the way they are.
One of many examples to a variety of differances raised was the one about putting your parents into an “Old Folks Home” as some call them.
It is not that the average westerner waits for the day to throw their parents into a home, sadly over many years from my families expereance at least is it has boiled down to the west being so expensive to live that both husband and wife must work just to pay their expences amongst other reasons.
Many families therefore have no choice but to bring their parents to a home where hopfully they can be cared for by good natured carers.
This is a very heartbreaking time for most families as of course we would rather have them at home or at least live next door or down the street from us.
Concerning what my honest view about religion is with what I grew up with in a catholic private school, I am not even going to go there.Lets just say I believe it is best to honour your religious beliefes internally and not with a business organisation run by some less than holy.
These are just some of my views, I don’t see something and sugar coat it or live with a distorted reallity.
It is what it is.
Cheers,
David
Thai Wedding for Dowry “Dowry” is not accepted by Westerners. It is not wrong and it is not uncommon for males to give dowries to brides. In the past, Thai women did not study. But have to learn everything in the house. The woman who should marry must be a woman who can do well. The duty of a woman is to be husband and wife, to care for her husband, to support her husband, and to have the power to make decisions about her family.
There are many things that change from past and present.
such as….Thai girls are free to study like all Thai men.
The story is not changed from the past is …. women also have the same home duties. I noticed that Thai women are good Thai women have to notice from home work well. Good women have to work well and cook food.
Good Thai women do not have sex before marriage. To follow the wedding tradition.She will keep the virgin for the man she will marry.
Thai Wedding for Dowry “Dowry” is not accepted by Westerners. It is not wrong and it is not uncommon for males to give dowries to brides. In the past, Thai women did not study. But have to learn everything in the house. The woman who should marry must be a woman who can do well. The duty of a woman is to be husband and wife, to care for her husband, to support her husband, and to have the power to make decisions about her family.
There are many things that change from past and present.
such as….Thai girls are free to study like all Thai men.
The story is not changed from the past is …. women also have the same home duties. I noticed that Thai women are good Thai women have to notice from home work well. Good women have to work well and cook food.
Good Thai women do not have sex before marriage. To follow the wedding tradition.She will keep the virgin for the man she will marry.
This is more of a question than a comment. I recently dated a Thai man and I am also friends (platonic) with a Thai men. I have noticed that both of them (and my ex boyfriends friends) make really disrespectful sexual comments towards me. I have stated that I don’t like when they speak to me that way, but I either get told that I think to much or that I am to hard. I am obviously approaching the situation using my own cultural lens and background. What is an appropriate way to stop the behaviour? I feel like I am hitting my head against a wall and I want to know how a Thai women would handle the situation.
Interracial relationships have their own challenges. Your article mentioned flexibility. I think it is very important to be flexible if you are in an interracial relationship. Since you are both coming from very different backgrounds you both must be flexible to avoid clashing every time. This should not be difficult because every relationship requires flexibility whether it’s interracial or not.
Interracial relationships are a mash up of cultures. Each one is bringing in a part of their culture and everything associated with it. It is amazing what you have to learn from your partner if they come from a different culture. You also get to visit their home country and experience the culture first hand. This experience is good because you are able to meet people from a different culture.
It is important to keep an open mind and embrace differences when you are in an open relationship. There is so much to learn if you are in this kind of relationship and you need not judge. On the contrary, you should embrace those differences and thrive on them. When you have the best of both worlds, you shouldn’t be complaining. This does not mean an absence of problems but that you should learn to deal with any problems with an open mind and an open heart.
I have never understood why the question of faithfulness comes up when a discussion on interracial relationships comes up. There is no connection whatsoever between unfaithfulness and interracial relationships. There are unfaithful people in all kinds of relationships. People choose to be faithful. This does not mean there is no unfaithfulness in interracial relationships. It just means it’s not more than in any other relationship.
Nothing is more interesting than learning a new language. It is much easier to learn a new language if you are in an interracial relationship. You are in love with someone who speaks a different language. How easier can it get. You will have a teacher living with you. I have met countless interracial couples who speak each other’s language.
Will agree with you that marrying into a Thai family requires a certain amount of cash input, it certainly depends with the family you are marrying into. Some families from the north and north east for example and especially those that are really hard up might want a significant cash injection. This is an exception rather than the rule and it certainly depends on how the family views you. If you one of those people who like flashing cash and boasting about your home country, they are going to milk you while the going is good. All my married friends in the south had their “sin sod ” returned to them via the daughter.
Having lived in Thailand for over twenty years I absolutely agree with you on the importance of family in Thai society. Thais value family and religion. I have been married to a Thai woman for over ten years and I am amazed at how she values family. Every decision she makes revolves around family. It irritated me at first but I really appreciate what she does for us. It’s awesome.
I have heard this notion that Thai people don’t like to talk countless times. It’s a noble notion but also a debatable one. I would call it a stereotype. Its not a given. It’s like saying every African American speaks in a high voice because you have watched a couple of African American movies. Thais are human. They get angry and sometimes lash out. They prefer a quiet life but the younger generation has been caught up in the hustle and bustle of modern life. They are becoming louder.
I am in an interracial relationship. It has been an amazing journey since we first met. It was scary at first because our cultures are vastly different. We managed to bridge our cultures and celebrate the common traits that bring us together. I make sure my partner and I travel to my country at least once a year. We try new things every time and we believe diversity is strength. We will be getting married soon and I am looking forward to my new life with so much excitement.
There is always going to be some kind of public disapproval of interracial relationships. This comes with the territory. Most of this disapproval stems from ignorance and in some caes envy. I however think interracial relationships are like any other relationship. This disapproval will soon fizzle away because there is no real basis for it.
Anybody getting into an interracial relationship must be prepared for the stereotyping that comes with it.Although the world is slowly coming to grips with the fact that people from different races marry, there is still some way to go. It comes down to the couple. The happiness of their family should not be dictated by outsiders who might view you as nothing more than a curiosity.
With the advent of technology, interracial relationships have become the norm. You can easily find a man or a woman that you like from the other side of the globe. Not only that, even working have become globalized. Soon, we’ll develop a global culture and perhaps a global language. it’s the internet made all cultural and language barriers almost obsolete. I look forward to a better future where everyone can find the perfect match for themselves, even if that perfect one comes from the opposite side of the globe.
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