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What Are Thai Women Like? Beyond the Stereotypes

Thai women differ as much as women anywhere. A few habits are commonly taught, such as polite speech and duty to parents, and they shape how she dates without telling you who she is. The rest depends on where she grew up, her schooling, money and family, and where you met her. Faithfulness is a choice, not a nationality.

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Published April 10, 2017 · Updated October 12, 2026 · 25 min read

What are Thai women like? What the lists get right and what they leave out

The trait lists you may have seen online (easygoing, family-minded, calm, feminine, loyal) describe a few real habits and then stretch them into a personality. The habits are real because they are taught. Many Thai girls are taught to speak softly and end a sentence with the polite word kha, to treat the head as the most respected part of the body and the feet as the lowest, to greet elders and people owed respect with a wai (palms together, a slight bow), and to keep a disagreement out of public view. Many also grow up knowing they owe their parents a great deal and are expected to repay it.

Three Thai women talking and laughing over iced coffee at a small cafe table in Bangkok — AI-generated image, HeyCrush

Those are manners and duties, not a temperament. A woman who speaks softly at a family lunch may argue hard with her best friend, run a team at work and swear at a driver who cuts her off. What the lists leave out is everything that makes one Thai woman unlike the next: whether she grew up on a farm in the northeast or in a Bangkok condo, went to university or left school at fifteen, sends half her pay home or none of it, and whether you met her in an office, on an app or across a bar where she was working.

The readers of this page’s earlier version split the same way. We counted the 68 people who commented on it between 2017 and 2025: 40 were Western men writing about a Thai wife or girlfriend. Of the 68, 37 agreed with the old trait list, 7 agreed in part and 9 disagreed, while 15 gave no view either way. One man said his partner read it and called it about 60% true. Another, whose partner grew up in Bangkok in a Chinese-Thai family, said some parts fit and many more didn’t. Two said flatly that Thai women are not shy.

A trait list describes manners she may have been taught, not who she is. Ask her where she grew up, what she does and who she supports, and you learn more than any list can tell you.

Quick poll

How well did the ‘Thai women are…’ lists match the women you actually met?

Mostly matched
Some fit, a lot didn’t
Hardly at all
I haven’t met any yet

Anonymous count, nothing else stored.

Why the Thai women you meet seem so different: place, region, education and money

The women a man met in Pattaya and the ones he met in Chiang Mai can seem to come from different countries because the places select different women, not because either group is the “real” Thailand. A tourist strip collects women who work with tourists, some of them a long way from home. A university town or a city office collects students, teachers, nurses and accountants. An app collects whoever is on it that month. Each setting shows you a slice, and a man who has only seen one slice tends to report it as the whole country.

A bar is a workplace. A woman working in one is being paid for her time and her charm, and a man who reads her work as love may later tell anyone who listens that Thai women lie. Paid attention is not evidence of romantic commitment, but the setting doesn’t excuse a deliberate lie either. Some men do meet a partner there, and money is part of how they met from the first night, so settle early what is paid, what is personal and what the two of you have actually agreed, before you spend beyond the evening.

Region matters in practical ways rather than as a personality. Thailand’s regions differ in dialect, in how many families still farm, and in how many young people leave home to work in Bangkok or a tourist town and send money back. A woman from Isan (the northeast) working in Bangkok lives between two places, and her weekends, holidays and money may still belong partly to the village. Seven of the 68 readers named her region as part of who their partner is: the northeast, the north or the south. We don’t describe a regional “type” here, because the women of one province differ as much as the women of one city anywhere.

Education and work are worth asking about at least as much as region, because they shape the practical things: her income, her time off, where she can live. A woman with a degree and a salaried career often has her own money, plans and friends, and expects to be consulted about where you live and how money is spent. A degree still doesn’t tell you what she wants from a partner, so ask about her plans rather than swapping the old profile for a new one. If your girlfriend fits nothing you read, that may be one reason: you were reading about a different slice.

Where you met her chose who you met. Before you decide what Thai women are like, ask which Thai women your life has put you near.

Quick poll

Where did you meet the Thai woman you know best?

A tourist town or a bar
Through work, study or friends
A dating app or online
Outside Thailand
I haven’t met one yet

Anonymous count, nothing else stored.

Are Thai women loyal?

Faithfulness is a choice each person makes, Thai or not; we found no study that compares it by nationality, and the claims either way rest on stories, not counts. What helps in a Thai relationship is what helps anywhere: boundaries the two of you have agreed out loud, and both of you keeping them. Living apart, money that flows one way only or a family in need can strain a couple, but they don’t decide or excuse cheating, by her or by you.

Both stories you will read online have a source. “Thai women are the most loyal” mostly comes from men in happy relationships writing under flattering pages; in our count of this page’s readers, 24 told a good story about a Thai partner and 6 a bad one, which says more about who comments under such a page than about Thai women. “Thai women are disloyal” often comes from men who met a woman at work in the bar trade, or who sent money for months to a woman they barely knew, or who presented themselves as rich and then found that money was what had been noticed. Three of the five men among those readers who told a bad story raised money. When you read one of these stories, check what it describes: a partner who cheated, a money dispute, or a relationship whose terms were never agreed.

Family duty has a Thai shape you should know about, and it is a different thing from faithfulness to you. A Thai daughter’s duty to her parents doesn’t stop when she has a boyfriend, and in a crisis (a hospital bill, a debt at home) she may put them first. That is not, by itself, disloyalty to you, and it doesn’t prove she suits you either; what matters is whether the two of you can agree what her family can count on, and keep to it. What would worry us is different: a story about money that keeps changing, a request that grows each month, or a woman you have never met asking for anything at all.

What to watch instead of her nationality: whether she brings you into her life (her friends, then her family), whether her plans with you have dates in them, whether what she tells you stays the same over months, and how she handles the first real disagreement. If money requests start, read the signs to watch when a Thai girlfriend asks for money; if she is someone you have only met online, read how to tell if a woman online is scamming you first.

Faithfulness isn’t a national trait; it is a choice each of you makes. Agree your boundaries and your money plainly, and watch whether you both keep your word over months, not where she was born.

Quick poll

In a Thai and Western couple, what matters most for loyalty?

How they treat each other
Living in the same country
Money both agree on
Her family’s needs
Where she’s from

Anonymous count, nothing else stored.

Mai pen rai, “up to you” and “I’m fine”: reading what Thai women say

Thai women often say a polite phrase instead of a direct “no” or “I’m upset”, and the phrase alone won’t tell you which it is; what she does around it may tell you more, though never for certain. The habit has a name, kreng jai: the feeling of not wanting to impose on someone or cause them trouble with your own wishes. ¹ Mai pen rai, the phrase every visitor learns, means never mind or no problem, and dictionaries also list it as a polite way to turn something down, much like “I’m good, thanks”. ²

We use a simple rule: notice what she does as well as what she says, and treat what you notice as a guess to check with her, not an answer. If she says mai pen rai and goes on chatting, laughing and making plans, it most likely meant what it said. If the same words come before shorter replies, a cancelled plan or a quiet evening, something may need a gentle conversation, though a busy day, a bad night or work can look the same. Either way it is a reason to ask, not a translation of her feelings, and a no she says plainly is a no, not a code to crack.

What she says	Often means what it says when	May be covering something when	What to do
“Up to you” (laew tae khun, tam jai) about where to eat	She eats happily wherever you choose	She has a preference but doesn’t want to impose it	Offer two concrete choices and watch which one she brightens at
“Mai pen rai” after you’re late or forget something	She moves on and the evening is normal	Replies shorten and plans go quiet the next day (or she is simply busy)	Fix the thing (be on time next week) without making her say it mattered
“I’m fine”	She is soon back to her usual self	She stays quiet, short or busy for a day or more	Ask once, as a question (“did I upset you?”), and accept her answer, even “I’d rather not talk about it”
“Maybe” or “I’ll see” to an invitation	She comes back with a time	She never proposes another time	After two in a row, stop inviting and let her suggest the next one
“Busy”	She offers another day	It repeats with nothing offered in its place	Stop asking and leave the next move to her
“You go, it’s fine” when you plan a night out without her	She has plans of her own and means it	She goes quiet when you get back (which may have nothing to do with it)	Tell her your plans early; if she seems quiet, ask once and accept her answer. Neither of you needs the other’s permission to see friends

If asking “what’s wrong?” gets you a second “nothing”, don’t press. The question asks her to say out loud, at a moment she didn’t choose, the very thing she was being polite about, and the easiest answer is the same polite one. Two things work better. If you think you got something wrong, say so and apologise for that (“I think I was rude to your friend; I’m sorry”), which lets her agree without having to accuse you. Or come back to it later, in private, without pushing. One woman on a Thai forum said she is direct herself, but that opening with “there’s something I want to talk about” sours the mood with her husband every time, however gently she says it; only two women in our count spoke about this at all, so treat that as one voice, not a rule.

In messages you lose her tone and her face, so read her against her own normal. Is she replying slower than usual, shorter than usual, without the stickers she normally sends, without asking you anything back? One short reply means nothing. A day of them after a phrase like these is worth a gentle question, not proof of what she feels.

The cost of not hearing these signals shows in a story from the 2017 version of this page. A friend of the 2017 writer had a boyfriend who wai’d everyone he met: children, waiters, people on the street, sometimes several times in one conversation. She thought it made him look foolish and said nothing for about six months, apart from smiling and calling him silly, which he took as affection. Then it all came out at once. It is one story, and its lesson is practical: make room for small corrections early, so neither of you has to raise them in anger. For the quiet row itself, read direct versus indirect communication in Thai-foreign couples, and for why a public scene costs so much, saving face in Thai society.

A polite phrase won’t tell you what she feels, and a quiet day after it won’t either. When something seems off, ask once, gently, as a question, and accept her answer, including “I’d rather not say”.

Quick poll

When she says ‘up to you’ about where to eat, what does she mean?

She has no preference
She has one but won’t say
Depends on the day
She’s seeing if I’ll decide

Anonymous count, nothing else stored.

Thai women and family: sending money to parents

Sending money to parents is ordinary for Thai women, and the women who write about it treat the amount as hers to decide, not as a fixed tax: of the 54 we counted, the two commonest answers were give what you can afford and set a limit or refuse, 23 women each, while the other 8 said it depends on the parents, that hers don’t need it, or gave no view. The duty has a word, katanyu, being grateful to the parents who raised you, and a child who fails to repay them is called the opposite, a-katanyu: ungrateful. Neither word sets an amount. ³ What that duty looks like day to day is best heard from Thai women themselves, in Thai, so we counted what they wrote.

Our count · October 2026

We read what 85 Thai women wrote in 13 Pantip threads (2019 to 2026) and what 68 readers said under our old post. Of 54 women writing about sending money to parents, 23 say give what you can afford and 23 say set a limit or refuse; 16 describe parents or relatives asking for more or borrowing without repaying. 11 name a monthly sum, from 1,000 to 10,000 baht, most between 2,000 and 5,000. In a first-date thread started by a man, 23 of 29 women say being asked to buy things is too much. These are people who chose to post, not a share of Thai women.

How we did it

Source: 85 Thai women’s own posts in 13 public Pantip threads (2019 to 2026), one entry per woman, plus 68 readers who commented on the old post (2017 to 2025), one entry each, no names kept
Found by saving 200 threads (16 everyday Thai searches), reading all titles, and coding the women in the 13 whose subject fits; threads used by other studies were left out
A Pantip woman counts if her own posts in that thread have female word endings and no male ones; replies with no ending are not counted
Sending money home (54 women, 11 threads): give what you can afford 23, set a limit or refuse 23, depends 3, parents do not need it 1, no view 4. Parents or relatives ask for more or borrow without repaying: 16
Sums named (11 women): 1,000 to 10,000 baht a month, most 2,000 to 5,000. With salary: 5,000 of 24,000; 2,000 of 15,000; 4,500 of 25,000
Money on a first date (29 women, one thread): too much 23, could be a test 2, no view 4. Would not ask for gifts herself 6, kreng jai named 5, suspects she is after his money 7
Saying it indirectly: 2 women, too few to count
Readers of the old post (68): agree 37, in part 7, disagree 9, no view 15. Western men 40, Thai women 2. Positive story 24, negative story 6. Money raised by 12, family duties 9, a region named 7

Limits: These are people who chose to post, found by Pantip search or by commenting on our old post: not a sample of Thai women or of Western men, and no figure is a share or a rate. The money-home threads are mostly started by women whose families ask for more, so the ‘set a limit’ count is high by design; they are about Thai families in general, not about women with a foreign partner (two women live abroad). The first-date count comes from one thread started by a man whose story some women doubt. ‘Not mentioned’ means these threads did not cover it, not that women do not care. The old post’s commenters had read an article that praises Thai women, so agreement is high by design.

We read 54 Thai women writing on Pantip, Thailand’s largest forum, about sending money to their parents or family, in 11 threads from 2024 to 2026. Of the 54, 23 said give what you can afford, and 23 said set a limit or refuse; 3 said it depends on the parents, 1 said hers don’t need it, and 4 asked a question without giving a view. Eleven named a monthly sum, from 1,000 to 10,000 baht, most between 2,000 and 5,000. Three gave their salary too: 5,000 baht from a salary of 24,000, 2,000 from 15,000, and 4,500 from 25,000. The 10,000 came from a woman earning well over 100,000 a month.

Read the “set a limit” answers with care. Most of these threads were started by a woman whose family keeps asking for more, and 16 of the 54 described parents or relatives asking for more than agreed or borrowing without paying it back. Four advised not telling the family your real income, and two said gratitude to parents isn’t measured in money. So the threads show what women advise each other when it goes wrong, not how often it does. None of them is about a woman with a foreign partner, and a woman who never mentions her family’s finances hasn’t told you there is no pressure; she simply hasn’t said.

What it means for you is plain. If you are serious about her, ask what she sends home now and from what, the way you would ask about any fixed cost in a shared life. It is her money and her family; your part is to be clear about what you can and can’t add, and to say it early.

A man who lets her think he is richer than he is sets up expectations he can’t meet; 12 of the 68 readers of this page’s earlier version raised money, mostly as a warning or as advice to be upfront. If big money questions come up (a loan, land, a house in her name), take them to a licensed lawyer before anything is signed or sent.

Meeting her parents can be a sign that she sees you as serious, and in some families it is read as a step toward marriage. Don’t assume either way; ask her what it will mean to her family before you go. For the visit itself, read meeting your Thai girlfriend’s parents.

Sending money home is normal, and the 54 women we read mostly keep the amount in her hands: give what you can afford, or set a limit. A family that keeps asking for more is a problem she knows about too, so ask her about it as a partner, not a judge.

Your turn

A Thai woman’s family keeps asking for more money than she agreed to send. What would you tell her?

Give what she can afford
Set a limit, or say no
It depends on her parents
Talk it through with them
Keep her real pay private

54 Thai women writing on Pantip about sending money to their parents (11 threads, 2024 to 2026), in their own words (our count)

Give what she can afford 23 of 54
Set a limit, or say no 23 of 54
Talk it through with them 4 of 54
Keep her real pay private 4 of 54
It depends on her parents 3 of 54

We keep your answer anonymously, with the date, and nothing else.

Who pays on a first date with a Thai woman?

We suggest that whoever invited pays, and on a first date with a Thai woman that is often the man; if she offers to treat you next time, let her. That part is advice, not a count. What we did count is what Thai women said about the fear behind the question: in one Pantip thread, 23 of the 29 women who answered said a first date where she asks the man to buy her things is too much, which is not the “Thai women expect the man to pay for everything” story. The thread was started in 2019 by a Thai man whose first date, introduced by a colleague’s wife, asked him to buy her a bag, then clothes, then make-up, and the next day phoned to ask him to transfer her room rent.

Of the 29 women who answered, 23 said that was too much and 2 said it might be a test of him. Six said they wouldn’t ask for a gift even from a boyfriend, five used the word kreng jai, and seven suspected the woman in the story was after his money. Two doubted the story was true, so treat it as what women said about a request, not as how common the request is.

Notice that the women in that thread were policing the very thing foreign men fear. His worry is “does she like me or my money?”; theirs, judging a woman who asks too soon, is the same question from the other side. So the rule both sides can use is the one above: pay if you invited her, keep early dates somewhere either of you could afford, and talk about money plainly before it becomes a test. For the longer view of who pays as a relationship grows toward marriage, see finding a wife in Thailand.

In the one thread we read, 23 of 29 Thai women who answered objected to a first date who asks for gifts; that is one thread’s opinions, not a national rule. Keep early dates to what you would spend anyway: it protects your budget, though it won’t prove her motives.

Quick poll

Who should pay on the first date?

The man
The man, she treats next time
Split it
Whoever asked

Anonymous count, nothing else stored.

Are Thai women shy? Shy in public, playful in private

Thai women who seem shy in public and playful in private are the same woman in two settings, and neither is a mask. Thai social rules keep affection light in public, especially in front of her family, older people and her home community, so a woman who won’t hold your hand at her aunt’s house may be teasing and affectionate once you’re alone. That is the rule of the setting, not a split personality, so ask her what she is comfortable with, and where.

Temples are the strictest setting of all: no affection in or near one, shoulders and legs covered, and feet never pointed at a monk. Two readers of this page’s earlier version rejected the word shy, one pointing at women working in go-go bars and one in an angry comment about money; that is the setting point again. Our own view is plainer. Plenty of Thai women are loud, funny and direct with the people they trust; whether she seems shy may depend on the setting as well as on who she is, so ask her rather than guess. For what is expected in public as a couple, read Thai dating culture and etiquette for foreigners.

Are Thai women beautiful? Thai beauty standards

Thailand has its own beauty standards, and the women you meet are measuring themselves against those, not against a foreigner’s list. Paler skin has long been prized, which is why so many creams and lotions on Thai shelves promise whiter skin; slimness, a small face and careful grooming are admired; Korean and Japanese pop culture shape make-up and fashion; and beauty pageants are followed closely.

The question “who is considered the prettiest Thai girl” has public answers, pageant winners and actresses, but it is a question about ranking women, and it tells you nothing about the woman you are talking to. What helps more is knowing the standard she lives under. Calling her darker friend “exotic” or praising her for looking “less Thai” lands badly; a compliment on how she dresses or what she has chosen lands well, as it would anywhere.

What are Asian women like to date?

Asian women are not one culture, so dating “an Asian woman” means dating someone shaped by one country, one region, one family and one job, exactly as a Thai woman is. A Filipina, a Japanese woman and a woman from Isan have about as much in common as a Texan, a Swede and a Greek. Thai women are not a stand-in for Asian women, and the conditions that matter (where you met, her schooling, her money and family duties) matter everywhere. For why so many Western men look to Asia in the first place, and what is true and false in it, read why some Western men prefer Asian women; for the other side, why some Thai women like Western men.

Life with a Thai partner after the first year: the frictions that show up

Some of the frictions that appear once the novelty wears off come from circumstance as well as personality and each person’s history: language, money, daily routine and family. Each is easier to talk about early than after it has built up.

Language. If English is her second language, a misunderstanding is not a lie. The 2017 version of this page told of a Thai woman who kept saying something that sounded like a swear word; the friend she was talking to asked her gently what she meant, and on a second try with a translation app it turned out to be “such as”. Be patient, learn some Thai, and don’t treat translation apps as gospel.
Money. If your income is many times hers, every choice (where to eat, where to live, what to send home) carries that gap. Agree what is shared, what is hers and what is yours, and revisit it once a year.
Routine and comfort. Your habits around time, ambition, quiet evenings and how often family visits are what you grew up with, and so are hers. When you clash, ask whether her situation is part of it: a woman who grew up sharing a house with three generations may find your quiet flat lonely, not peaceful.
Family. Her parents’ needs and opinions don’t stop at the wedding. Agree in advance how you’ll handle a big request, so neither of you is negotiating in a crisis.

Some of what feels like “her personality” in year two may be her circumstances meeting yours, alongside who each of you is. Naming the circumstance can make an argument easier to solve.

Quick poll

Your partner sends part of her pay to her parents every month. Would that bother you?

No, it’s her money
Fine if we agree the amount
Only if it keeps growing
Yes, it would

Anonymous count, nothing else stored.

Thinking of marrying a Thai woman: her family and your readiness

Before you marry, know what her family will expect of you, and be honest about how ready you are yourself; “I love her” is necessary but not sufficient. Start with her family: ask who she supports now, what her parents expect of a son-in-law, whether they’ll want a wedding as well as the registration, whether they expect sin sod (a payment from the groom to her family) and, if so, what it includes and who keeps it, and where she expects to live.

The practical markers are the dull ones: a steady income that covers the life you’re planning, a visa plan for wherever you’ll live, a shared answer to where you’ll be in five years, and a family conversation that has already happened. The personal ones matter as much: a past relationship that is behind you, not being rebuilt with her, and expectations based on the woman in front of you, not on a list like the ones this page began with.

The warning signs are the ones you’d see anywhere, sped up. A marriage proposed within weeks, money pressure as the reason to hurry (a debt, a family emergency, a visa deadline), or a sense that either of you is marrying a solution rather than a person. Slowing down costs a few months; marrying in a hurry can cost far more. For the full road, from meeting to sin sod and registration, read finding a wife in Thailand: meeting, courting and marrying. Questions about visas, a prenuptial agreement or property belong with a licensed lawyer.

Readers’ first-hand impressions of Thai women: 68 comments counted

The readers who commented on this page since 2017 are the first-hand impressions it was built on, and counted together they are more useful than any one of them. Of 68 commenters, 40 were Western men writing about a Thai wife, girlfriend or fiancee, 2 were Thai women and 26 didn’t say. Twenty-four told a good story and six a bad one; 12 raised money, 9 her family’s duties, 7 her region and 3 the bar trade, and 8 said the old page helped them.

A first-hand view names a place, a time, one woman and what he did; a stereotype says “they all”. Read the comments below with that test in hand. They were written about the 2017 version of this page, which we rebuilt in October 2026, so some reply to things it no longer says.

Thai and Asian women: common questions

Which Asian women are best to date?

No nationality is best to date; the best match is a woman whose plans fit yours, in a country you can visit often enough to know her. Choose a country you are willing to learn something about and spend real time in, then meet women the ordinary way: through work, friends and apps where you say what you want. If you’re wondering where to look, HeyCrush, the app behind this site, is being built for people dating between East and West; it is waitlist-only until it launches.

What are the pros and cons of dating an Asian woman?

The pros and cons are those of crossing a culture gap, not of the women. On the plus side, you learn a second way of seeing family, money and manners, and many couples say it made them more patient. On the other side are a language gap, her family’s place in your life, distance if you live apart, and an income gap that colours every choice. None of them is a reason to date or not to date a particular woman.

What is the male to female ratio in Thailand?

Thailand’s household registers held about 95 men for every 100 women in 2024: 32.1 million men and 33.8 million women. The gap is wider in Bangkok (87.4 men per 100 women), Phuket (88.7) and Chiang Mai (92.7), and narrower in the northeast (97.8). ⁴ The registers count people at their registered home address, not where they live now, so the figures say where women are registered, not how many you’ll meet. They also say nothing about how many single women of your age there are, or how many want to date a foreign man.

What are Thai ladies known for?

Thai women are known, to visitors, for politeness, a ready smile, care with their appearance and close ties to family. Those are real and mostly taught; the women behind them are as varied as anywhere. Many young Thai women in the cities work, support themselves and help their parents at the same time.

Do Thai women fall in love quickly?

Some do and some don’t, as anywhere, and speed tells you little on its own. Words of love early on, especially in messages, are a feeling, not a plan; a plan has a city, a date, who travels and who pays. Watch whether the words turn into plans, and whether the plans happen. Never send money to make a first meeting happen.

Quick poll

She says ‘I love you’ in the first few weeks of messages. What do you make of it?

She means it
Nice, but not a plan yet
A warning sign
Depends what she does next

Anonymous count, nothing else stored.

How we put this page together: We rebuilt this page in October 2026 from a 2017 post, keeping what was accurate. We read Thailand’s National Statistical Office yearbook (household registers, 2024) and the dictionary senses of kreng jai, mai pen rai and katanyu at the source. Then we ran our own count: on Pantip, Thailand’s largest forum, we searched 16 everyday Thai phrasings, saved 200 threads, read every title and coded the 85 Thai women writing in the 13 threads that fit, one entry each: 54 on sending money to parents (11 threads, 2024 to 2026), 29 on money on a first date (one thread, 2019) and 2 on saying things indirectly. We also coded the 68 people who commented on the old page between 2017 and 2025. Found: of the 54, 23 say give what you can afford and 23 say set a limit or refuse, 16 describe family asking for more or borrowing without repaying, and 11 name a monthly sum of 1,000 to 10,000 baht, most 2,000 to 5,000; 23 of the 29 say asking a man to buy things on a first date is too much; of the 68 readers, 37 agreed with the old page, 7 in part and 9 not. Region, loyalty and phrases such as mai pen rai were not coded, so what the page says about them is our reading. These are people who chose to post, not a sample of Thai women.

Why we made it: Pages about what Thai women are like hand a man a list of traits, flattering or cautionary, and leave him to apply it to the woman in front of him. We made this page to show what a trait list leaves out (where he met her, region, schooling, money and family duty), and we ran the count because the two questions men worry about most, money for her parents and money on a date, are ones Thai women discuss among themselves in Thai, where the English pages don’t look.

References

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Wiktionary, kreng jai(opens in a new tab)
en.wiktionary.org
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Wiktionary, mai pen rai(opens in a new tab)
en.wiktionary.org
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Wiktionary, katanyu(opens in a new tab)
en.wiktionary.org
4
National Statistical Office, Statistical Yearbook 2025(opens in a new tab)
nso.go.th

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METRY 2 years ago

Just seperate Looking for the last love

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Brad 3 years ago

Excellent report. I am 69. Sometimes I communicate with Thai women on internet chat.
Afterwards I feel like I am 21!
I do love all women but mostly Asian girls best. In USA women, many of them, have become too competitive with men. Argumentative and disrespectful. Any man will go to the excess from a deficiency!
I also love the cute figures and beautiful smiles on pretty faces.

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Frank 4 years ago

I want to thank you so much for a well written, well thought out and most important an honest assessment of Thai women. I am dating a Thai woman who is absolutely wonderful and all that you describe in your article. I feel truly blessed to be her partner. All the best and many many thanks for your article.

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arv 6 years ago

omg i actually know that girl in your pic…she’s from chiang mai.
The world is a small place indeed.

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Brian Sumpter 6 years ago

Great article! I read it to my Thai wife of 10 years, and she had a blast! She likes to talk about it! We had a great two years in Thailand, and moved to California after she got her visa. We have a very handsome little boy and life is good! My wife goes to the Wat every Monday to feed the monks & has lots of Thai friends here in Sacramento. She loves her Thai TV, & FB with her family, just like you said. Anyway, you said you don’t hear enough good stories, so I want to send you one.

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Dai 6 years ago

What do you say about those individual who met a Thai lady online dating app, and have started exchanging messages, video call, sending gift to each other country, and etc. Should you suggest to stop it? Leave. Have no money wiring or anything yet but talked about dowry, traditional wedding, engagement ceremony. Both Thai lady and individual are looking for long term relationship.

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Dai Furuta 6 years ago

I have met a lovely Thai lady through Thai dating app, so far we are doing great, once a while, we both are not getting messages through properly because English is not our first language and I don’t speak or understand Thai yet. From what I read your information definitely useful. Thank you. I wish I could avoid misunderstandings. Thank you.

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Bill Collins 6 years ago

Hi
I am from Scotland, Now retired and living in Hua Hin. Had a Thai GF from the South that lived and worked in BKK. Relationship was 4 years. Met her mum, who loved me as i could do all the DIY work around the house plus spent 1 month painting the house. We bought a ring in BKK on year 2 then i visited mum, but simply used the word with this ring i would like to take care of your daughter, Accepted. Personally we never talked or discussed marriage, although i have tried to get a number, which is up to mum. IN the last year she has left the house a few times after small disputes over small stuff, but gone for a month, 3 months max, no words she is leaving just the silent treatment, then gone in a taxi next day, but last time was I dont feel like this is my home, as during the last time she was absent i changed upgraded dining table, got rid of old TV cabinet, and cut out a few plants in the garden. When she returned she did not make one complimant about the changes, life was normal, then out of the blue silent treatment, next day bags were all packed, but while taxi was waiting i asked so you done see a future? To be told what did you promise Mum? I said i would take care of you. Have i not done that, No Answer. After i thought hum is this the marriage proposal i should have followed up with ? Anyway she is gone saying we need some time apart. But think i am done with the Silent treatment. prefer to live alone with my bicycle and motorcycles. Your sincerely confused.

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Arvi 6 years ago

Please don’t mislead a cohort of men into falling for these women. Most Thai women are very deceitful by global standards. In fact Thai culture itself is all about being okay to lie while keeping face. If you don’t really understand this principle you’re going to be taken advantage of my dear friends. Hope someone reads this twice. I’ve lived here for several years and I understand the language and culture more than the average tourist.

I do hope you find a good one but please don’t wear rose colored glasses.

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gregory 7 years ago

i met a Thai lady online at a dating site and we communicated for months.
At first, she was not sure and tried to push me away. Then i discovered a previous boyfriend had given her aids. She was taking medication and her count was low by now. when i said this did not change the way i felt about her she became more
settled and we finally met in Thailand. She still went to work as a receptionist in a hotel but came back to an apartment i had rented each night. we were/are both in love. I could accept the cultural differences, we met her family back in the provinces and i got on well with her brothers and their children, as well as her father and cousins.
I was honoured as i was the first man she had introduced to her family.
It took me a bit of time to learn the nuances, we could hold hands in public but kissing in Public was not something
to be done, though a peck on the cheek was allowed occasionally.
at night time she was very coy. She always maintained she was ugly and her skin too dark((though to me she was beautiful and i loved her honey chocolate skin)
I could understand and could wait for her to become comfortable.
I told her that i did not want her doing things in front of me that she would not do alone. So if she had always worn pajamas then it did not matter to me that she never wore sexy lingerie. what mattered is she felt comfortable. To be frank, i thought she looked sexy in anything she wore. But there was a barrier between us when it came to intimacy although we were intimate. I felt and thought it was to do with something from her earlier relationships but she refused to discuss it the past is the past she said and this is my future. I was also finding it hard to see how to please her, to get her to trust and believe i loved her.
I had read the 5 languages of love and knew that we all have different ways of expressing love. so i asked her to fill in a questionnaire, at first she refused but when she did she filled it how she felt entering what i wanted the answers to be. She guessed what i would put and tried to replicate, that was not what i wanted. I do not want her to do things that please me.i want her to do things that please her. i cannot see how to change that or to open up. she wants us to be married and live in Thailand, something i am willing to do.
But if she will not open her heart and trust me, how can i make such a huge commitment.

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Anon 7 years ago

Great article, but the fact that you were able to write that much boasting about yourselves defending their spoiled behavior tells me that a thai girl’s number one trait is arrogance/cockiness. Holding onto feelings of bitterness and anger for 6 months is 100% inappropriate for any relationship. You’re not helping anyone by putting on a fake smile.

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Steven Grisco 7 years ago

I believe it’s true that Thai women are heaven sent .

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John 7 years ago

This is a very helpful article, i met a Thai lady in November and i believe we both really love each other, but when i’m at home i listen to a lot of negative comments and question our relationship. I have been back 4 times since november twice just for weekends and we speak every day. This has convinved me that i need to follow my heart and see what happens. I actually feel guilty about the negative thoughts and realize that a lot of it is where we are mis-interpruting what we are saying to each other. Thank you again.
Once my thai language improves it will get easier.

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DSC 7 years ago

Thank you so much for giving such good insight!
I am traveling to Thailand for the first time next month and have used a couple of social websites to search for perspective dates.
After reading your article I now realize many of the mistakes I have been making and, with great appreciation, have been upfront about my finances which has easily weeded out those that were more interested in my wallet.
I look forward to visiting this beautiful land and now feel a bit more confident.

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Andrew 7 years ago

I been married to a thai. Girl. From amnat chiron. For 4 years she is 30 i am 53. We have 2 kids. 4 and 2. Well Ive read your article. And. Id like to say. My wife is untidy. Everywere. I do my own laundry. She hardly talks to me. Never wants sex. I get no kisses or cuddles. Maybe once every. 6 weeks i might get sex but. No. Oral. Im on my 3 rd marrage. And. I thought i was set. I mean all is ok. Else were. We dont fight. But. Yer. Not happy jan. I wouldnt so it again. Plus. All the money. They want send home. Dont do it. My advice. Re andrew. I feel like i got another daughter

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Sranang Soldier 7 years ago

Funny that all the guys here think bad about their own woman in their country. That thai woman are better etc. You don’t need to go to Thailand to get yourself a wife or girl. You need to work on yourself and be a man.

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Andrew Fehr 7 years ago

What such a wonderful article i have start an online relationship with a thai girl who i plan to give her a holiday for 3 weeks in 3 months. You have given me a great insite to how to treat her right and most of all her traits. She is a very loving family orientated lady that is a single mother of 3 children she works very hard for her family. I could not habe met a more wonderful person. She inspired me to be a better man and look towards a wonderful future. Thank you

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David 7 years ago

I stumbled on to this article while looking for the meaning of something my girlfriend said to me haha. Thank you for writing this. It was a good read and very spot on about Thai women from what I have seen, but that should be expected since it is written by a Thai lady 🙂

What you said about Western men is true, to a point. I can only speak for myself, but I didn’t mature or figure out what I want in life until I hit my early 30’s. Now that I am cruising through 35 I will say it has become much easier to date in general and maybe that has something to do with it.

It is a little sad to say – I have never been able to have a meaningful relationship with a Western woman. The silver lining is that I am happy to say that Thai ladies have by far become my first choice! It took me some years to reconcile the cultural divide, however, the more I understand the language and the culture the deeper and more fulfilling my dating experiences have become. I am looking forward to seeing where this takes me.
-David

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Jeffrey Hemstreet 7 years ago

I am meeting my Thai girlfriend in a month. We have talked online for one year now and I am so excited to meet her in person. She is taking me to meet her parents in the Surin province so I am pretty sure she likes me….lol. I really enjoyed reading your article!

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Kyle Gaillard 7 years ago

I have been married to a Thai for over 10 years, I had three failed marriages prior. I have never been so happy in my life, my Thai wife is the finest human being I have ever met. Your article is perfect! You nailed it! I encourage friends of mine to get out of the cocoon of America! I will keep this article and forward to my American friends in search of true love and respect of each of their partner. You should write a book! Thank you,
Kyle

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norman tourville 7 years ago

I met a wonderful thai lady and have been in a long distance relationship for about 4 months now,about a 5 hour drive,and we see each other a couple days every 2 or 3 weeks,text daily and video call daily,and she has told me many of these things already,and in three days she is moving to vermont with me ,I’m trying to learn anything I can to help us in our relationship, this information was great ,thank you

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Michael 7 years ago

Thanks for a great article.
I really learned a lot.

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Casey 7 years ago

Great article, some parts fit, but many more don’t, perhaps because she is chinese thai from the north, but has lives in Bangkok for her adult life. Wife & I could really use a therapist with cross cultural competence for Thai & US. Both individual development and couples therapy. One of my degrees is in social psychology. Any thai american therapists in la? or online counseling if they can bill insurance. Biggest struggles are with lack of communication of needs from her, we are both type A & have very different directions we want to approach important issues, and lack of drive to understand or embrace US social culture.

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Bruce Boyd 7 years ago

Thanks for the nice article. I am American but from a small progressive town in Oregon. I met a wonderful Isaan woman on ***, more or less by accident, but fortunately I had the money, time and good sense to head over there ASAP to meet in person. That was over a year ago. I’ll never forget that day in the Bangkok airport. We are both divorced with kids of our own (total of 5; but mostly grown and living on their own). Neither of us will win any beauty contests, but we are fit and healthy. After a very brief hug (in the airport), she busied herself organizing our luggage and looked up at me for direction; where were we going; how were we going to get there etc. I guess I was a bit in shock at first. She is quite small and was wearing simple country girl clothing; kinda like we would call “hippy clothes” back in Oregon. But in the back of the taxi, she gripped my arm like nobody has ever done in my life. She didn’t look up at me; just wrapped both of her arms around my left arm like her life depended on it. That’s when it hit me. I was in love.
I made 5 trips to Thailand in the last year, and got married a couple months ago at my home in Eugene, OR.
Is she perfect? No. Is she a doormat? No. Actually, she is the toughest fiercest person I have ever met and has a hella temper on her. She’s like a 5 foot battle tank. Always moving, always working, always overcoming obstacles, and she does NOT like being trifled with or blamed for things. The good news? Get ready for it. Wow, does she love me! No rhyme or reason for it. She just loves me like nobody ever loved me. Cooking, cleaning, cutting my fingernails, massaging my back, grooming herself, always looking pretty and smiling; enthusiastic in bed.
ADVICE FOR FARANGS:
People are people; some are better than others. Most of what makes Thai women so fantastic is THAI CULTURE and THAI RELIGION, so I highly recommend bathing in that same holy fount that has made these people (not just the women) so friendly, loving and forgiving. 1. GO THERE! 2. learn the language 3. visit the temples and study the religion and 4. whatever you do, don’t be disrespectful of the culture, religion (monks and temples), traditions, or people. Be a good guest. If you heed this advice, it will change you and you will be worthy and capable of a great interracial marriage.
Likewise, be very very mindful of the danger of rushing into bringing your Thai wife or fiancee back to the US (or probably anywhere outside of Thailand). There are many articles on the internet detailing the dangers of this, but they generally focus on the Thai women getting screwed up by Western culture, and ignore the importance of culture (family, friendship, language, religion, food, behavioral standards etc) on us men.
Meeting someone online is great, but then get over there ASAP! And return to the West with no small amount of caution. Yeah, be the good guy, the hero of your story, but if you just let Thailand change you, I think you have a very good chance of success.

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Andy 7 years ago

Truth is I have never been happier. She washes, she cleans, and she has a smile that takes my breath away. When she walks by me the hair stands on end. When we go out partying, I enjoy every moment. Don’t get me wrong, the love making is fabulous. But more important are these little affectionate things that she does that really blow me away. Wiping the drool off my chin, even tying my shoe laces, scrubbing my back in the bathroom. I have been having a terrible time with work, but just the presence of her keeps me sane. And she doesnt cook! But is happy with food from 7/11 and loves her ‘Khanom’

I met her at one of the bars in Soi 6 in Pattaya – Probably the worst place to meet a girl. But she really, really just completes me.

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Mihalinka 7 years ago

Bullshit. Utter bullshit. Witness the conversation that occurred between my American friend and his Thai girlfriend:
Him: what do you think The Buddha would say about your 400.00 designer purse?
Her: (angrily) Buddha never paid my bills!
They would both joke about how sweet and soft spoken she was when they were first dating, and what a shrieking banshee she is now, including a rich vocabulary of English profanity.

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Lucky Bastard 7 years ago

I met my wife at the university in Thailand. I was an exchange student at the faculty of engineering, yes, she is an engineer, she speaks very well English and now she learns to speak Norwegian. She is a family-oriented person who has the perfect skill of cooking, though she can not cook much western food, but that is great enough for us. We hold 6 years of a long-distance relationship, somehow, we visit each other very often. She was an exchange student in Norway after my semester in Thailand. We married three years ago and I feel like I am the luckiest man in the whole world. My lovely thai wife got a stable job here in Norway in a short time, she is now on a B2 level in Norwegian and tries her best to achieve C1 level. Don’t get me wrong, she is not from the rich family. She is from a middle-class family where both parents work hard for their daughter. She told me that she has to work hard and study hard so as her parents could live better lives. She is very strong and a great fighter who never gives up easily.

She always has a nice heartwarming smile which claims me down from all stress. I always feel peaceful next to her. I called her ‘the peacekeeping machine’. I think she has those kinds of the ray of peace from her strong belief in religion. She meditates 30 minutes every morning before she goes to work. My wife and I used to party a lot when we were students and she has a great sense of fashion, she loves taking care of herself and never let time kill her face (that is what she said to me though). Though she seems like a perfect woman but she is a very shy person, she still confuses why is she so shy this much, she doesn’t manage to talk much with my friends though she knows them for years. She has few friends but she said that they are her family, less but great qualities said my wise lady.

After you read all these you might think that I am a lucky bastard. But hell yeah, I really am! She has everything men would ever dream of. We are together for 9 years now and we can not really keep hands off of each other.

Good luck to all guys who searching for the love of your life!

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1. Chris Warner 7 years ago
  
  What a beautiful comment..I am so very happy for you both. Thank you I was wonderful to read, it made my day 🙂
Dessie Dooris. 7 years ago

I though angels only lived in heaven, but I found one in the form of a very gentle and lovely Thai lady whilst she was working in ireland. If I had sent both my parents and my family out in search of the perfect partner for me, they wouldn’t have succeeded as I did by just being in the right place at the right time when I met her. That’s the day I won my lottery the day I met her. The most beautiful Angel God ever made.

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snowden 7 years ago

Thai women are NOT shy. They will sleep with just about any human being in order to obtain a few extra dollars. They have cons until the cows come home. Flick this blog and look at the Thailand horror stories of Thai women taking advantage of foreign men or women. (never go in to business with Thai people, nor trust them with anything to do with your livelihood)
also they are NOT euphemistic!!!! I have never in my life met a Thai woman that has had table manners. (They can even eat with their mouth closed)
As far at the “Kha” at the end of a sentence, that is about as far as their polite manner go’s. Picture 2 Baboons screaming at each other, when they are simply asking if the other is hungry.

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Drago 7 years ago

TO: Admin
This article has convinced me that a Thai lady will be exactly what I need , I will have to learn more but at least I will not cause her shame or embarrassment when I meet her parents and family as well as friends
I would have held hands and placed my arm around her, big error.
I plan on going to Thailand for a month or so and see what I get going between now and than
thank you this has been eye opening but also adds to the quality of the women.
thank you so much

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Steve 7 years ago

Boy, I just read this and generally I wouldn’t have commented but in this case….
In my case, I married a Thai lady after we had lived together for two years, I had known her longer, but was still looking and traveling around the place, and we had had a rather big argument, about money of course, so I pulled stumps and left. 4 months later we started talking again, and well away we went. In that time, I learnt some harsh lessons about having a Thai woman in your life.
Many have said it again and again, but it’s all about the money, she sold insurance in BKK before this but lost her job due to some finance issues, loan sharks coming to her work demanding money she owed.. I bailed her out to the tune of 360,000 baht.
She came and lived with me for two years, I gave her money which was fine, then she decided she wanted to open a shop selling cosmetics and asked me for a loan, basically added up to around 800,000 baht. We drew up a paper detailing her paying me back in such and such a time, the shop died in the butt, without me ever receiving one baht in repayment. Then came some other scheme, and another, I refused to give her anymore, and things went south. She did get some work back in insurance, enough to keep her going, send money home and such. Then last December out of the blue, she announced she had bought a car, a new MG, on her uncle’s name. Now she doesn’t drive, her son and her brother does, as do I, but I wanted nothing to do with it, it was the most pointless 9000 a month of anything I could imagine, especially when she touched me up to pay for it. Totally irrational and pointless amounts of money are spent on pointless things, and as usual, the farang pays.
Now for about the past year, the romance has gone, she sleeps alone in the living room and wants nothing to do with me, last time we had sex was when she got money out of me for something, and even then it was nothing like what we used to have. And forget about even looking at another woman, let alone the thought of a mia noi…
It’s a complex relationship, she still owes me a lot of money, she keeps promising to pay, but money goes out of her hand faster than it comes in still, I know I will have to forget about the sum she owes me, I’ll never see it. This is the reality of many Thai Western romances, it’s all a scam, and I’m not just being a unhappy farang here, I know many other couples in this city and the men have basically expressed a similar view except for two guys, it all starts out wonderfully and slowly they get sucked dry.
My wife and I have been married for three years now, together five… I try not to think that she is looking after her and her family’s best interests before mine, but I know Thai blood is far more thicker than water, and my future here in this country is very iffy, I am literally within months of deciding whether to just cut my loses and go elsewhere. She will justify never giving me anything owed by her own set of rationale, she can tell her family and friends any manner of stories and they will believe her.
If anyone truly believes a Thai woman loves them, you’re fooling yourself

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Martin 7 years ago

Cool post

Thailand is ever-changing and with that, so is the habits and characteristics of Thai women.
I’ve been living in Thailand for 6 years now and in a long term relationship with a Thai girl for nearly 3 years.
Not all Thai girls are the same – the majority of the ones I met all had agendas that focused on money and supporting themselves as well as their families. Thankfully, after meeting more than 300 thai girls, I found the right one. Sweet and without an agenda other than being happy together.

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Jon Wheelahan 7 years ago

Hello and thank you for such an informative and insightful blog; yes the question of why I find Thai women so attractive is a real cultural enigma; I thought my sex life was over at 50 that was until I traveled to Thailand and yes I went through the bargirl sene to start with got over that fanciful situation fairly quickly, don’t know why but Western women do not seem sexually attractive anymore, have had girlfriends from all over the world but there’s something about Thai women I find really attractive sexually and personality wise been back to Thailand many times now I will be retiring there in a few years it’s the only place I feel that offers the best lifestyle for someone who wants a simple agrarian life in a garden of paradise.
Feel like the most fortunate man in the world to meet the most amazing intelligent independent woman who shares the same interests as me spiritually mentally and physically, the connection we have is unique and very special will never have the chance to meet another Thai woman like my baby meet her through a Thai friend on facebook as soon as I saw her I knew she was the one for me never had this happen before feel blessed with overflowing gratitude; I speak a little Thai and my friend speaks very little English but we communicate on a level that defies reality, she understands me like no other and I understand her heart the same, being a Buddhist helps to no end having such a strong spiritual connection between us, every so often I stop to think and wonder sometimes something so special and sacred we share; is our relationship real and a part of our reality the answer is yes and yes time improves our confidence and trust in each other; it’s magic brings me to tears at times to comprehend the enormity of our love for each other and the world around us. Thank you for your blog, take care

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Sylvain La Salle 7 years ago

Wow, many thanks for this very informative article. Presently, I am in discussion with a couple of Thai women and I am very impressed with their honesty.

A friend of mine convinced me to join a Thai dating site and I am more than happy. I will be going to Thailand in a few weeks and I can’t wait. I will be meeting this one girl that is simply astounding, beautiful, respectful and down to earth. We will be together for a week or so and see if we match. One thing I have to admit, I never thought that Thai women were so beautiful inside out. I really hope to have a relationship with this woman, time will tell but I have such a wonderful feeling that I am going to the country at peace.

Thank you for this article, I now have a better idea on how to present myself to her, family and friends.

Cheers!

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Ric 7 years ago

Hi, I found a university grad young Thai lady. I’ve treated her and her family with great respect. Lovely marriage with gold and 300,000 sinsot. I own two large luxury condos here plus have taken my wife on three exotic cruises , plus other trips to really nice resorts throughout Thailand. She doesn’t work. All pleasure. Should be perfect. But she’s now screaming at me for land and prestigious house and a car in her name. Yes… screaming. And no intimacy. She’s on a Thai wives of foreign men website and all they do is brag about what they just received from their husband. So the fantastic life seems small in comparison to others. ( plus they all know bargirls who are raking in quick rewards from foolish foreigners).
I’m now depressed and have now officially given up on making her happy. Divorce is coming soon and I’m dreading that too. Oh. I don’t drink, don’t smoke, no bars, just gym and fitness to look as good as possible. My friend is in the same position but he’s giving in and has bought his tgf a car and land etc. ( she’s slightly happier but often threatens to leave if the material hypergamy slows. I haven’t told two other friends that they’re tgf are cheating on them and will leave the instant they find a richer guy. I could continue but the message is pretty clear. Thailand is not the same as before.

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Larry Whisenhunt 7 years ago

Great piece, lam an American. I married my Thai wife while stationed in Bangkok Thailand in 1970. She was with me my whole 20 year Air Force Career and we lived another 10 years in the States after my retirement. We relocated to Ratchaburi in the year 2000. In 2013 my wife passed away age 65 due to cancer. At least she got to live in her home country (with me) to enjoy her family, friends, thai food and watch her favorite Thai TV shows for the last 13 years of her life. We were married 43 wonderful years plus the 6 years since she passed away (we are still married) a total of 49 years. She was and still is my soul mate. In your article you pretty much got everything right l really enjoyed it very much. Thank you.

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Barry 7 years ago

Very interesting
Most of your comment i agree with
But you seem to be making excuses for others ie lying a lyer is world wide and not exceptable

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Garry 7 years ago

I am so angry with myself. I wish I had read your post a week ago.
I met a Thai lady in Australia she is the sister of my friends wife,
She is beautiful and ten years younger that me. However I am a youngish fit 60 year old guy. But I amediatly thought that there would be no way she would be interested in me.
So I continued to drink beer all afternoon but found myself being attracted to her even more.
Anyway way I got quite drunk and we ended up sleeping together. I told her that I just wanted a cuddle.
However having her soft body next to me and the fact I had not been with a woman for a year I could not control myself. However I must say she did not resist not one bit. I did not force the issue. In the end I actually truly believed that she was actually attracted to me.
I have tried to contact her but can’t as I only have her sisters number. And she tells me that she dosnt want to seem me. I can’t help but think she dosnt even know I have tried to contact her.
I just wished I had read your post before I met her.
I will be going to Thailand ASAP to hopefully find a Thai lady that I can love and give her a good life.

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Didi 7 years ago

I had met a Thai girl at Bangkok for almost a year. She is originated from ubom rachathani. We have good feelings for each other and we went overseas together for few times. But sometimes she is treating me cold and hot. We just recently got together and we are having a long distance relationship. Would really need some advice.

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Jeffrey Hemstreet 7 years ago

This was a well written article. I have met a Thai woman and I am in love with her, or at least I think I am. I will get to meet her in January of 2020 for the first time. I asked her to read this article and she said it was about 60% true. I cant wait to meet her!

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1. admin Team 7 years ago
  
  We really hope it works out well between you two!
  
  We’d be thrilled if your friend could share her thoughts in the comments for the benefit of all readers!
  
  All the best 🙂
2. snowden 7 years ago
  
  She only wants your money. Once it is gone, so are you. I recommend Europe or South America. Thai women don’t have hearts, they are just really good at acting like they do.
  PROTECT YOURSELF
Bert 7 years ago

I agree entirely with the article, but have a few points to add.

Thai girls are very affectionate, and will shower you with attention. However, they also want more of your attention than a Western woman. Expect a message when she arrives at work (even though you kissed her goodbye 30 minutes before), when she is going to get lunch, and several other times throughout the day. She will want a caring message or five each time. This can be surprising and even annoying to begin with, but if you put some effort in and return her affection she will be a happy little lady.

The same can be applied more generally. Thai girls will want to be with you all the time when they are not at work, and at the weekend. In the West we would call this ‘clingy’, and it can also take some getting used to. Personally, I love the level of affection and seeing her happiness when it’s returned. It’s super cute and endearing. But, be prepared.

AND the same can be applied to sex drive. If you give her attention and affection you might be surprised by how much and how often she wants to be intimate. Treat your Thai lady well, and you might find you have trouble keeping up with her!

Finally, the Western concept of ‘shopping around’ and short-term dating is not common in Thailand. If a Thai girl becomes your girlfriend, most will begin to think of it as a long-term thing. Splitting up is usually a lot more devastating to a Thai girl than Western women. So, if you’re just after a bit of fun, it might just be better to pay for it, rather than messing up some lovely girl’s life!

I’ve been with my Thai girlfriend for 6 months now, and couldn’t be happier. She’s a wonderful companion who loves taking care of me, and I really love being ‘her man’ too.

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Bruce Boyd 7 years ago

Thanks for a great article. I found it all to be very true and helpful. Of course each woman is a bit different. My girlfriend/fiance (of one year now) for example is from a farming village in Issan. Formal education usually stops at 8th grade and she would have trouble identifying countries on a world map.

Sometimes she playfully refers to herself as “stupid” but, um, nothing could be further from the truth. She has a large cranium and uncanny ability to solve problems. One of her brothers got himself a college education and works for a tech company in Laos. Work ethic? She wakes up at 4:30 every morning; starts by cleaning the house from one end to the other; hand washing clothes; then starts food prep that includes making her own tofu, soy milk, sprouts, Thai snacks and meals that her mom sells in front of their house. Oh, and she drops everything to wait by the side of the road to feed monks as they walk by each and every morning at dawn.

Then she takes the first of 2-3 showers for the day, meditates for at least 30 minutes and prepares breakfast for everybody. At 8 AM she rides her motorbike into town and opens her curtain shop where she sews and waits on customers. At 5 she heads home for another shower, 30 minute meditation, and supper preparation for anyone present. Here and there she is trimming fingernails and hair for various people; massaging her mother’s swollen legs and arms, boiling soy beans for the following days tofu and soy milk. Maybe heading out to the “bush” on her bike to collect wild veggies for the family.

She usually takes a nap at her shop during the heat of the day, and goes to bed about 9PM. She doesn’t drink or party or disturb anyone about anything. She doesn’t like anyone else drinking either, which is fine with me, and she REALLY doesn’t like being trifled with and her radar picks it up with alacrity generally. She gets a bit ruffled occasionally but forgives quickly and moves on. Her personal hygiene and grooming are equal to her housekeeping. She exercises daily and is very fit. Here and there she’ll find a quiet place to call a friend or family member and much laughter is heard. She loves to chat and laugh as her schedule allows.

If we go to the beach or somewhere, she will just ask me what time i want to leave and she’ll have everything packed and ready to go; snacks, towels, bathing suits etc etc. She totally gets my humor and loves it. She’s very playful and accommodating and takes great care of me in all ways. She has very very clear boundaries for what I have come to know as ‘trifling’ and ‘petty household tirrany’. Get it out of your system asap, if you want to enjoy the full bounty of what a Issan Thai wife can offer you.

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1. admin Team 7 years ago
  
  Thanks a ton for sharing your story! Looks like you’ve found yourself a keeper! Congratulations!
  
  A lot of people make opinions based solely on their visits to the seedier ares of Thailand. There are just so many men who have a beautiful relationship with regular Thai women who I wish shared their stories more often!
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lee shelford 7 years ago

I have saved this to PDF & will absolutely re-read it frequently to keep me grounded !!!!!!

I am sincerely looking to find a permanent genuine loving relationship with a loyal Thai lady from the North. This well worded genuine insight has provided invaluable information that I would have had absolutely NO idea about, if I had not stumbled on your post.

I am staggered at the amazing learning curve that I will endure ( as too she would have her work cut from her side as well ) I honestly hope that I can be what she expects of me. It will not be easy but because I’m older & wiser now & more than anything else I really want success for both of us. I really hope that I will some day find the Northern Thai lady I’m seeking out . If so I think for me it would be best for me to live in Thailand with her than to take her away from her home & environment . I’m an Englishman living in Australia & hate it here as it is a now very different country than the one I came to 25 years ago. Western woman are completely the reverse of a Thai lady & I’d hate to have the lady I love change or get tainted , or part turn into a woman with a Western mindset chasing shallow values & gaining misplaced aspirations.

Your very thorough invaluable evaluation & enlightenment has made a big impact on me & made realise things that I had never even considered properly . Sometime as they say “You can’t see the Woods for the Tree’s” & thats so true in this case ! I have absorbed all you wrote & will draw on and seek to recall and act on that knowledge for a very long time to come .

THANK YOU so much.

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1. admin Team 7 years ago
  
  Thanks for stopping by, Lee! Glad you liked the post!
  
  Reasons you state are exactly the reasons why so many men from the West are contemplating a relationship with Thai women and finding success with Thai women as their partners. Not a lot of people share their happy ever after stories online, but trust me, there are a plenty of those!
  
  Good luck with your search 🙂
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Kris 7 years ago

Thank you so must for this very well written post. I’m beginning a relationship with a NE Thailand woman, and it’s been insightful understanding some her values and principals. I really like how Thais are very family and home oriented. It makes for the possibility of a genuinely warm and reciprocally loving relationship or respect, trust and working together.

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1. admin Team 7 years ago
  
  Glad you’ve found someone who makes you happy 🙂
  
  There are a ton of men happily married women from Thailand that you never get to hear about. Family bonds are very strong in Thailand (and many parts of Asia as well) and it might be a difficult to accept at first, but in the end its usually all worth it.
Harm 7 years ago

I’ve met many Thai ladies and the one thing I definitely not agree with is that they all love the Durian bit. In my case one in about eight Thai women like it, about the same stats as foreign men.
For the rest it’s an interesting read. The same as Western women, they all have their price tag.

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Foreign Love Web 7 years ago

Interesting and necessary information to American/Western men who are (more) curious about women in Thailand

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Kyle mahler 7 years ago

I just entered into a relationship with a beautiful Thai woman. This article probably saved my life. To lose her would be the end of my desire for a relationship. You have taught me much.
P.S now I know what a Farang is.

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wayne livingston 7 years ago

All is so very true, but the inter beauty can not be properly described to a western man we must experience it for ourselves.

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Maurice Brooking 7 years ago

I have enjoyed a loving relationship with a Thai girl from a small country village for almost a year. Being the only farang in the village one “becomes the talk of the town” and similarly my darling has become the envy of her friends, definitely not that I am someone special.
After being used to the competitive and aggressive Western way, I am now so gifted to experience the love I receive two fold from her, and the support and love I get from her family, her friends and the entire village. I am honoured to treasure the love I receive from her own two daughters and her own brothers and sisters I also had the honour of meeting her late mother before she passed on. I have been made to feel special by everyone she knows and the love from a Thai girl and the entire village is unique.
I have one word of advice for farang who want to enjoy a meaningful life long relationship with a Thai girl. Please don’t expect to take her away from her family and her country to be your wife. If you love her be with her always.
Thais love their country. They love their families. Buddhism is their life. Respect her.
Her love is unconditional. She is loyal and is second to none in the whole world.
There is nothing so great in life we farang can experience as the love from a Thai woman and her family and friends.

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1. admin Team 7 years ago
  
  Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and experience with us. Hope you have a great life ahead with your Thai life.
2. Ozzie 7 years ago
  
  Hello,
  What is the name of that town?
  Thanks
  Ozzie
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Paul Simons 7 years ago

Great article..I am an Caucasian American. I met a Thai lady and she is the best.. Here in America it’s a war on white Caucasian men. I will never marry an American woman ever.. Thai women are the best and I love her to death.. bless your country of Thailand..

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1. admin Team 7 years ago
  
  Glad you found someone that makes you happy 🙂
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Ben 7 years ago

That was really well presented. Having been dating a beautiful women from north east Thailand for several months I can honestly say this has completely painted my scenario And I’m really glad I read this entire article…..it has proven to me my new mrs is in fact a wonderful hearted woman.

Thank you

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1. admin Team 7 years ago
  
  Thanks for stopping by, Ben. Glad our article resonates well with your personal experience with Thai women 🙂
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Suresh 7 years ago

I visited Bangkok,Phuket and kohsamui I love your country and today I learned lot of Thai lifestyles. I respect you very much for the values you told the whole world keep smiling Thai women.

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1. admin Team 7 years ago
  
  Hope you had a good visit 🙂
2. Terry 7 years ago
  
  My thai wife is a 49 yr old goddess
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Mark bowden 7 years ago

I love my thai wife, but she says she does not think i love her, why? We have a distant relationship, which is hard, send money every month. I dont know whats wrong.

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1. admin Team 7 years ago
  
  Long distance relationship are always more difficult than regular ones. The most difficult aspect of being in a long distance relationship is constantly having to judge the state of the relationship.
  
  Have an open discussion with her and make her understand you’re not just looking for a holiday girlfriend and I’m sure things will work out well. All the best 🙂
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Mick 7 years ago

Thanks for your thoughtful imformation now would you go on a date with me

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1. admin Team 7 years ago
  
  How much money do you have?
  
  Sorry, couldn’t resist :p
  
  Happily married for over 8 years now 🙂
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DaveCore 8 years ago

I am dating a Thai girl from the North East region of Thailand. We met in Phuket, but I didn’t lead with my wallet and was honest with her from the start on what I am looking for and wanted. Plus I keep my promises and I’m going to meet her family soon. She doesn’t want to move out of Thailand, which I’m fine with, because my job I can move there. I am from the US, but currently live in China. After I meet her parents, I will see how things go. I know its a big deal for my Thai GF to meet her parents, so I respect that and open to marrying her and staying in Thailand. Nice article, and I am trying to learn all I can so I know what I’m getting myself into. Plus I’m trying to learn the Thai language so I can communicate with her parents and family.

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1. admin Team 7 years ago
  
  Thanks for sharing, and hope it works out well for the two of you 🙂
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Guy Modica 8 years ago

This is one of the most informative articles I have read. I will be going back to see my Fiancee in another few weeks after Songkron to see and be with her while we wait patiently for her above to join me in California for a whole new life filled with new experiences and opportunities she has never even thought of before. She is the only daughter with elderly parents who she works so hard for with little in return. I know exactly what I am getting into and it gives me pure joy to make our life much better all around. We love each other dearly and thank you so much for your positive thought here!! GUY

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1. admin Team 7 years ago
  
  Wish you all the best in life 🙂
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Elektra 8 years ago

What an interesting post. I’m an American woman of Thai descent. My parents were born and raised in Bangkok. My mom is very proper and diplomatic in public. She never causes a scene, even when she’s annoyed at my dad BUT just wait until they get home and BOOM she’ll verbally tear him apart if he made her angry or did something wrong. It’s almost hilarious. I was born and raised here in the U.S. so I’m a lot like my mother, but I’m a lot louder than she is. I gleefully don’t avoid confrontations, especially with men.

On a different note, it saddens me to see so many Western men come to Thailand, men who are physically and mentally ugly, who fail miserably at obtaining the love and interest of a Western woman. They come and seek Isaan or other rurally raised women, thinking he can have the “upper hand” or a basically a submissive, domestic slave. Thai women deserve better than these failed, disgusting slobs. I hope all these women who are considering an expat farang are strong and handle these men the way they need to be handled. Thank you for posting this interesting read!

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1. admin Team 7 years ago
  
  Thanks a ton for sharing your thoughts 🙂
  
  The whole idea of the post to help people see the bigger picture when it comes to relationships that’s healthy, respectful and on equal terms with Thai women by explaining about our culture, lifestyle, traditions and our country as a whole.
2. Brian Sumpter 6 years ago
  
  The lesson here is be not surprised if some US women are angry US men leave them for foreign women! lol! We are supposed to be their cash cows! lol.
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nena 8 years ago

Thai women are like other women in this world.
With both good and bad people Beautiful and ugly
If you want to find good women You have to find a good place as well.
If you like having sex with Thai women, you have to go to Pattaya or Club Bar.
There are very few women with prostitution in Thailand.
Of course, most men will like bar girls.

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1. admin Team 7 years ago
  
  I know, right?
  
  A lot of men just visit the seedier side of Thailand and assume its the same with the entire country! However, as you can see from the comments there are plenty of people who have found partners in Thailand and forged a happy and healthy relationship with Thai women from all walks of life. Its sad (and just human nature) that people don’t share their positive experiences as much as they share (and vent) their negative experiences in life.
  
  I’m glad though that there’s a positive change in opinion that’s slowly but surely happening.
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panasara rattankorn 8 years ago

I read all of this and mostly so true.

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1. admin Team 7 years ago
  
  Glad you agree with it 🙂
Sheshrao Mate 8 years ago

We like Thai female and their custom and culture..who are very faithful with their husband and their children ,family.This is the true principle of our social system.

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Lee jones 8 years ago

Great words, i love thailand, the people and my thai better half, will be there for good next year and can wait!! She is the love of my life and not and never been a bargirl!!! Thankyou for your advise lovely read!!!

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1. admin Team 7 years ago
  
  Glad you enjoyed reading it 🙂
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Michel Saelen 8 years ago

Great and very educative post, i cannot more then agree to this very thoroughly analyses of an ever smiling ,unique human Thai Female
Ms

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1. admin Team 8 years ago
  
  Thanks for stopping by, Michel! Glad you enjoyed the article!
Joe Cardona 8 years ago

Don’t agree at all that Thai girls are family knit. They can easily be influenced by others especially their female friends. They know to do their homework, ie, what type of future
they would have. They don’t listen to their husbands but it’s ok when it comes to their
friends. For sexual pleasure, they are generally very condescending and await payment
for the service. So, in a few words, don’t put a high price on them.

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JJ 8 years ago

I was there a few days ago for the first time in my life. A life changing experience, altough happily married to a western woman, I must say Thai women are way more carrying and lovely than I ever expected women can be. Too late for me – but definitley worth a try in my next life.

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1. admin Team 7 years ago
  
  Its a different cultural experience for sure 🙂
  
  Hope you had a good stay…
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Liolio 8 years ago

Thank you for your article.

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1. admin Team 7 years ago
  
  Glad you enjoyed reading it 🙂
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Jason 8 years ago

Awesome to get a Thai ladies perspective. Too much is one sided farang bias. Gives me hope for an honest relationship. I feel more comfortable with the collective approach to society than the western individualistic approach. Not that one is better than the other , just different. Thank you for your openness.

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1. admin Team 7 years ago
  
  Glad you liked it. Trust me, there are a lot of foreigners happily married with Thai women, that you never hear about. Its unfortunate you only get to hear the negative experience, but that’s just the way it is… Oh well….
Benjamin C. 8 years ago

One of the best article … maybe the best one… I’ve read about Thai women.
Lot of truth but I feel like you talk about everything we have to do to make Thai women happy. You seem to forget a little about our happiness.
I can understand what you said about the importance of your (Thai women) family, parents, relatives… what about ours?
A guy like me … like many others I guess, worked hard to have a comfortable situation. Now I’m looking for a Thai women for many reasons… it’s not a problem for everything she like, to take care of her (even if that is also to be define) but, I also have a family I have to think about, to help sometimes. I can take care of her but not all of her family plus my family… a lot of people … that is not possible. My comfortable situation doesn’t make me a rich guy…you have to consider that!
I consider myself as a farang even if I’m a mixed, with a great value of family. I can easily understand that. I have no kids then for now, I help my nephews in their studies… and I have my own projects …
I like to discuss with you about that … if you don’t mind… you have my email.. thanks 🙂

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Cindy 8 years ago

I lived in Thailand for long time.what about the Go Go bar girls..you mean they are shy??? seriously?
why did u not also include how they make the economy grow here..Yes The SEX industry…and these girls
are all good girls and shy? Lol…if you wanna talk about Thailand, is cool, but speak also the down side
of the women here too…and many of the lie ..they are students, Lawyers, Doctors, and more normal jobs
to not shock the foreigner of make him Run away.
they also will tell you that you are the only boyfriend in their life, if u don’t live in Thailand and visit a few times a years..as a foreigner…but they tell you , that you are the only one..behind your back.they have 10 more boyfriends.
and boyfriends that send them money monthly…..they are mainly after money not after your love.
This is what many naive men have not realized or seen…I see this soooo many times.
In reality most Thailand women want money, only a few want love, real love.Not many only a few.
also if men cheat on a women, there have been many cases of men getting his “penis” Chopped up.
This stories you don’t tell right?
Another thing, many Thai women marry a man who boys a home in Thailand.And after a few months or so,
she kicks the man out of her home..and keeps everything.End the relationship.because if you buy homes or property
in Thailand foreigners , can’t own anything here.So when he buys he will buy it on his wife name…a wife that he trusted Loved, suddenly takes all his money and everything that he owned..and she took it from her husband.after she takes everything that he owns, he is homeless and begging for money on the streets and asking people to help him to fly back to his country…because his Thailand wife did this to him…I saw this in Bangkok..seeing this foreign man begging for money on the streets of BBK.
and i hear so many stories same like this….so Thai women are not only good..but also have many dark sides too…they can be LIERS.so watch out..for survival.
I hear many men sleep with Thai women..cause this is what people get programmed with..but from Go go bar girl to prostitute, to real Lawyer, real doctor, up class girls..all ask for money after sex..either it is for fun, one night stand..or prostitute, go go bar girl…this so many men have told me.
Also i have a relationship with my Bf since 2 years back..now when we go out to a club..what happens..ok let me tell you.
As soon as they see my boyfriend, many ladies dance around him and flirting with him, touching him…and me standing next to him..they dont even care.I feel they are nasty, envious, jealous women with no values, or caring about if they meet 2 people in love…No ..they don’t care at all if 2 people in love split up…no values, respect or caring at all for them self or others.
so Thailand has also Ugly truth’s..not only good truth …like every where else in this world.
Thai women or Thailand is not more special than any other country or better..no
I been living around the world and actually i find the Japanese people are the best…Geniuses and filled with wisdom.
Japanese women are also like Thai ladies serving the men..but they are deep and intelligent…not only thinking about money,.
sex and enjoy..NO..Japanese women are very kind and balanced ..they would not cut a mans dick cause he cheated.
.every body has negative and positive.
life is about balance…Thanks.

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mike 8 years ago

Thank you.. this is really well written, and I appreciate it very much.. I’m not sure at all, as an American, that a Thai partner is in my future, but I certainly appreciate what you shared ! Thank you again ! 🙂

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1. admin Team 7 years ago
  
  Thanks for stopping by, hope you find someone that makes you happy 🙂
Andrew Comte 9 years ago

Describes my wife completely! I couldn’t imagine life without my Thai wife. Loved reading this post. All the best!

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Thai lady 9 years ago

Thank you to write this article. You can explain well about Thai women and our culture,, that because you get an experience by yourself and learn to know without negative. I am sorry for some men to get bad experience from Thai women, will be women from any counties that have good and bad. If you find good Thai women that can answer your questions in your mind. No one can tell you unless you get it experience by yourself, but you can keep what others experience considerations what is true or not. To find gems you have to go in place where is gems. As well, gravel is everywhere.
This was story of me with someone i love from England. I was on dating site 2 years ago, I found someone and we take time to know each other 2 years. After a few day we know we closed account on dating site and continue contact everyday. We have argued most of time it’s because his trust issue. He always think i have contact other at the same time and can’t trust me enough… even i tried to show and prove him everything that i can do. He is very stubborn and guess everything, we are sad , upset and fight a lot. I truly know we love each other but he finally give up just reason i am far away. I lose him in while i tried so hard to show him all my commitment, my time , my love honest and loyal, he stop trying everything after year, but i still hope he will see and feels it. I never ask him for anything, just want to know his life in everyday. So i lose the person i love that we take time 2 years because his friends and people he know told him about bad Thai women in negative, even he never come to Thailand, he never know Thai people before, he judge me to be bad woman who want money and better life even i never ever ask him about money or his income. I have good job, i have education, i live life and take care myself. I just want to find the love of my life after my heart break from my Thai ex husband. So still in my mind why judge that you never come to Thailand and what i treat him can’t help him to be confident… I have try my best and just let him go.

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1. admin Team 7 years ago
  
  Really sorry it ended that way 🙁
  
  Long distance relationships are indeed hard because you’re constantly evaluating the state of the relationships. There is indeed a lot of negative stereotype on the internet. I really wish more people who’ve had a successful relationships would share their stories to bring balance to the madness that is on internet…
  
  Don’t loose hope though. Better days are just around the corner…
2. Jim 7 years ago
  
  What no one tells about Thailand.
  
  So sorry, I will tell more about what you may not find in any other posts or books. I worked in Thailand for 4 years and that is the basis for my sharing this experience.
  
  I completely disagree to this post about Thai woman. I will b a bit direct in this post, nothing racial but in general my experience in Thailand not as a white man but with black color skin.
  
  All posts and books about Thai people or culture is written by only White Man, not a single Black or Color man has written any such posts. The experience may be totally different based on your most importantly Color, Origin, Gender etc. Ask a white lady, her experience may not be as pleasant as white man.
  
  Its not white man who are in the first place behind the Thai girls. But in reality, Thai girls are behind White man, hence its easier choice for a White man to fall in love with Thai girl. If a women is behind a man, its easier than the other way around, simple law of nature. Imagine, how difficult is it for a white man to date white woman because they are demanding and will not compromise anything and everything because the guy is white in color. Same does not hold true for a Thai girl
  
  Why a Thai lady prefers white man. Of course, as generally believed, white man is more respectful and I appreciate that after having travelled out to more than 20 countries in Asia, Africa and Europe. But surprisingly, Thai girls can take tolerate any amount of shout by a white man but not a small grievance of a black man. If a black man is 100% humble and respectful, still he does not get even 10% of what he deserves to get back. But for white man, if he is just say 10% respectful, he gets back 100%. Any reason, yes you guessed it right. Color
  
  Go to streets, how obsessed Thai girls are about their appearance and skin color. They wanted entire body to be white and white including their private parts. You can see, all the whitening creams are sold like hot cakes in this country.
  
  In some bars, blacks and colors are not even allowed to enter, I refer specific ones in Soi Cowboy. They are still in medieval period mentality which used to state “Dogs and Blacks are not allowed”
  
  Any child from their birth, is taught by their mother on how important is to look good. Look good means being white in color. Education is rarely given importance hence no wonder even the most educated lots still have same mind set as the one in the bar.
  
  For Thai girl, Beauty = White, White = God, God =Worship so Beauty = Worship or White = Worship. That simple.
  
  To become English teacher in Thailand, you must be white. If you are African American you cannot teach English because of your skin color. However if you come from Spain with little knowledge of English, Thai’s will look up on the Spanish guy to teach them English.
  
  I know a dark skinned Canadian waiting in beauty parlour was not given her turn but other white ladies who were behind her in the queue were offered chance before her. You still expect this dark skinned lady to keep quiet. If she raises her concern, she is being told that she is unreasonable due to her skin color.
  
  Of course, I came across few Thai girls who did not have such color or racial, at least after knowing that you are a kind hearted and generous person. But its becoming rare and rare to find such a person in Thailand.
  
  Overall, I would never in my life wish to go to Thailand and not be even willing to visit as a tourist.
  
  Only pray to god that people come back to their normalcy.
3. Thomas 7 years ago
  
  This by far is one of the best heads up articles or posts about a foreign mane like myself dating a Thai woman or one traditional and sincere one from any other Asian country for that matter! Your post is very dignified respectful, and downright intelligent! It gives a very good picture on what to expect in a relationship with a Thai woman! Thank you!
  
  I feel my other half lies in Southeast Asia! After not have good experience with
  Filipino girls, I am trying my luck with Thailand. I am happy! To be honest , I have registered for a site of Thailand girls. I immediately felt I will find her there!
  I read some of the profiles which seem to incorporate a buddhist philosophy>
  I am touched! I feel somethings we just know . I also think the heart knows what it wants!
  
  So sorry about your guy. No offense sometimes older guys can be insecure, especially maybe in long distance relationships! You seem solid! Independent, confident, and pretty in your way! You my friend are a crown jewel! Please Stay true to yourself ! Many good guys are still around.
  
  Take care
  
  Thank you for your post..its an act of kindness that will bring you love someday!
  
  Go Thailand!
  
  Thomas
  
  thomas
4. Jim 7 years ago
  
  What no one tells about Thailand.
  So sorry, I will tell more about what you may not find in any other posts or books. I worked in Thailand for 4 years and that is the basis for my sharing this experience.
  I completely disagree to this post about Thai woman. I will b a bit direct in this post, nothing racial but in general my experience in Thailand not as a white man but with black color skin.
  All posts and books about Thai people or culture is written by only White Man, not a single Black or Color man has written any such posts. The experience may be totally different based on your most importantly Color, Origin, Gender etc. Ask a white lady, her experience may not be as pleasant as white man.
  Its not white man who are in the first place behind the Thai girls. But in reality, Thai girls are behind White man, hence its easier choice for a White man to fall in love with Thai girl. If a women is behind a man, its easier than the other way around, simple law of nature. Imagine, how difficult is it for a white man to date white woman because they are demanding and will not compromise anything and everything because the guy is white in color. Same does not hold true for a Thai girl
  Why a Thai lady prefers white man. Of course, as generally believed, white man is more respectful and I appreciate that after having travelled out to more than 20 countries in Asia, Africa and Europe. But surprisingly, Thai girls can take tolerate any amount of shout by a white man but not a small grievance of a black man. If a black man is 100% humble and respectful, still he does not get even 10% of what he deserves to get back. But for white man, if he is just say 10% respectful, he gets back 100%. Any reason, yes you guessed it right. Color
  Go to streets, how obsessed Thai girls are about their appearance and skin color. They wanted entire body to be white and white including their private parts. You can see, all the whitening creams are sold like hot cakes in this country.
  In some bars, blacks and colors are not even allowed to enter, I refer specific ones in Soi Cowboy. They are still in medieval period mentality which used to state “Dogs and Blacks are not allowed”
  Any child from their birth, is taught by their mother on how important is to look good. Look good means being white in color. Education is rarely given importance hence no wonder even the most educated lots still have same mind set as the one in the bar.
  For Thai girl, Beauty = White, White = God, God =Worship so Beauty = Worship or White = Worship. That simple.
  To become English teacher in Thailand, you must be white. If you are African American you cannot teach English because of your skin color. However if you come from Spain with little knowledge of English, Thai’s will look up on the Spanish guy to teach them English.
  I know a dark skinned Canadian waiting in beauty parlour was not given her turn but other white ladies who were behind her in the queue were offered chance before her. You still expect this dark skinned lady to keep quiet. If she raises her concern, she is being told that she is unreasonable due to her skin color.
  Of course, I came across few Thai girls who did not have such color or racial, at least after knowing that you are a kind hearted and generous person. But its becoming rare and rare to find such a person in Thailand.
  Overall, I would never in my life wish to go to Thailand and not be even willing to visit as a tourist.
  Only pray to god that people come back to their normalcy.
5. Ken E 7 years ago
  
  Don’t give up on us. Not all men are like he was. Some of our men have had bad experiences with our women here causing trust issues. After losing trust like it sounds like he has, it is really hard to gain that trust back again with someone new. Hang in there. There is a good man out there that would love you and treat you with respect that you deserve.
6. Drago 7 years ago
  
  Hello to All Lovely Thai ladies:
  2 Years ago I lost my wife of 47 years, we never spent a day apart and we were always affectionate in public and other wise, hold hand, arm around waste, lots of kissing.
  I have looked at women everywhere and Thai ladies appear to be very similar to her but NOT her. I enjoyed learning about my future wife traits and much more. I am older and mature I have a small pension that would support us in Thailand, I am not wealthy or rich, but I find I like the traits of Thai women, strong, good providers, strong family ties, I am of European decent but I come a matriarchal family background. I would like to ask some one from the South of Thailand (I love the ocean and beaches) if they would have time or interest in assisting me to understanding the many different do’s and don’ts of finding my Thai bride, help me understand the customs and living in Thailand, I under stand the retirement status is changing as well as medical insurance. So current accurate information would be greatly appreciated. Or could admin direct me to the proper site.
  I do to want to place my email here perhaps Admin can help you or
  I will return here at a future point
  Thank you all in advance
7. Russell 7 years ago
  
  While I happen to know more than most Americans about Asian Culture and Religion, this was very informative and extremely helpful. I am a Male, Caucasian and 57 yrs old. Ever since I was a young Man I’ve always been drawn to Asian Women. Especially Tia Women. Thank you for posting this article. I hope that one day soon I am able to travel to Thailand in search of the right girl to spend my remaining years with.
8. Russell 7 years ago
  
  I just realized autocorrect messed up the word Taiwanese to Tai. Sorry for the mistake.
9. Mani 7 years ago
  
  Thinks that’s man is are doesn’t worst for you as he is dose not listen to his heart but in stead he is listen to his friends , you better fine someone else who care for you and love you and not think that’s you after their money…
10. Brian Lindsay Sumpter 6 years ago
  
  Sorry about your relationship not works out. Some men have emotional scars from other women & have trouble to trust again. Its not your fault, you didn’t do anything. You can tell him, but it looks too late. Look for a farang that at least comes to Thailand, it shows a desire for commitment. Choke Dee, sweetheart. 🙂
Harold Meza 9 years ago

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John Jackson 9 years ago

Love at first sight is so damn possible after you take a look at them. These Thai women are so stunning with their looks and yes way better than any other country women I have seen before. In case people are looking for serious relationship I would recommend them to visit https://www.mizzthai.com.

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Roger 9 years ago

I am currently dating a Thai women. We have been together for over three years. Wedding bells are ringing and I have been talking to some of my married friends. They told me I am not going to be boss of the house. Thailand seems patriarchal on the outside but it is fiercely matrimonial on the inside. Women tend to run things on the home front. A Thai police officer friend of mine once told whenever they arrest a man, they to prepare to deal with a mother!

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Billy 9 years ago

I am betting I met the wrong Thai girl. My girl can out complain any western women I have ever met. Besides it’s not the complaining that is the issue but rather the reasons for the complaints. My girl complains but in a nice way. She is Thai but seems exasperated by everything Thai. She is just like that and it makes her more endearing. I wouldn’t want to imagine what she would be like without the complaining.

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Henry 9 years ago

I agree with your article when you say Thai women are optimistic and positive about the future. I remarried after a few years of living in Thailand and the difference between my first and current wife couldn’t be more glaring. My Thai wife is eternally optimistic and can function under pressure. She is always telling me things will work out. I have a couple of friends married to Thais and they have told me the same thing. It’s amazing.

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Douglas 9 years ago

My Thai wife and I survived on a shoe string budget for almost three years. Our business went bankrupt and we were left with bills to pay. It was a tough three years and my wife managed to get us through this difficult time without as much as a complaint. It amazing how she managed to do this. She is not the only one. I have heard of this happening to other couples.

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Chris 9 years ago

My Thai girlfriend of two years has never in our time together raised her voice in anger. This sometimes makes me more angry. I don’t get it. I don’t understand how she keeps it all bottled inside. It worries me because one day it will all come out. It is true that Thai women try to avoid fighting. They will go all the way to soothe your ego and make things right again. I am not sure if it is the right thing to do keeping all the issues packed inside.

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Francis 9 years ago

My experience was actually fun. Some of the seriousness you described in your article was not part of my experience. My in-laws speak no English and it was hilarious how they went out of their way to accommodate me in a household that spoke no English except for my fiancee. I agree with most of what you have said but there are pockets of exceptions out there. I have never felt any pressure to fit in except the pressure I put on myself to fit into a culture I am married into.

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Dalton 9 years ago

I definitely agree with you that Thai women are family oriented. That is part of their charm. The connection to the past. I love them for this. While we quickly move from home and forget our roots, Thai women cling to them. I believe this is what makes them awesome cooks and wonderful wives. I have lost count of how many times we have gone back to the in-laws since we got married or how many of her relatives we have visited just to say hello. Its great!

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Clara Jens 9 years ago

Lovely post! It revealed so much truth about us. Thailand girls are just unique in virtually all ways; friendly and respectful, there is just no doubt about that. Good to read, quite interesting.

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