Kate is getting a lot of sleepless nights nowadays. It’s very unlikely because she is in a very happy state of mind. Kate has found the perfect man for herself, she is in love, she knows that but the problem is she doesn’t know whether to tell that to Gary. Yes, Gary is the man of her life that she is pretty sure of. Should I say I love you to him? Is it the right time? How would he react? These are the questions that torment her and leave her tossing in bed whole night.
The predicament that Kate is going through sounds so common right? We have all felt that at some point in our life and had figured out the answer ourselves. For some, the timing has proved right and for some it had been a disaster. Are you standing at such a crossroad in your life? Do you want to know whether it is the right time to say “I love you” to your girlfriend or boyfriend? The right time to say the golden words – is there really any rule for it?
If you ask your friends about the right time to say those golden words, you may get conflicting advices like you should say it within 2 months since you started dating or after five dates, or do not wait for too long, girls should wait for their boyfriends to say it first or do not say it after having sex. Now, what is the basis behind these suggestions? Nothing.
Let me tell you one thing. Love is a very pure and rare feeling which we feel only a few times in our lifetime. So, you should say these words only when you feel it from the core of your heart and this has nothing to do with the timing. Five dates or two months or a year, say it only when you feel it.
However, what you should contemplate about is deciphering the signs that tell you that this is the right time to say “I love you”. Yes, there are some signs that would guide your heart to know whether you should tell the L- word to your dating partner. If you are clueless about these signs and how to decode them, here are these explained only for you.
Telling I love you – here are the signs you should look out for
Knowing and feeling are two different things, and feeling is what counts.
Before I delve into this subject, let me tell you one thing clearly. Each person is different and so is his love story. So, what is true for Kate may not apply to you. Moreover, do not look for all the signs in your life since each person being unique so would be the feelings. If your partner is a very romantic person at heart, you may feel the tug more strongly.
However, people who are introvert may not show any sign that you are looking for. You are the best judge of your life. Go through the list and find out the signs that match your love story and then take a decision. Your decision must come from your head after consulting the heart.
When you love too much
“There is no pretending”, Jace said with absolute clarity. I love you, and I will love you until I die, and if there’s a life after that, I’ll love you then.”
She caught her breath. He had said it-the word there was no going back from.”
That’s what you need to feel within your heart. If you have been in relationships before you must have felt this but may be they were shallower or things didn’t work out in your favor then. However, if you are feeling this strongly now, don’t lose the opportunity now. Think about all the things that you do together and that make you happy. Think of the love, care and attention your partner bestows on you.
Do you feel special? Do you feel loved? More important, do you reciprocate the feelings too? If yes, you know what you need to do.
Love is a great feeling and professing it to your boyfriend or girlfriend feels amazing. If it feels right now, say it. Don’t hold yourself, seize the moment and life fully. Let love embrace your life and make it complete.
When you survive the first fight
“You said you didn’t care what I thought. Or what I did. Or if I died, if I’m not mistaken.”
“I lied! And you know I lied, you stupid bastard!”
Every couple fights, that’s the truth of life. You cannot agree with everything that your partner says or does and hence disagreements and fights are bound to happen. There is a saying that if two people who are dating can survive the first fight, they can get along well for a long time. Did you have any nasty fight with your boyfriend? How did you patch up?
If you find saying sorry is easier than losing someone, you know how much you are in love.
Remember the couple Kate and Gary we were talking about? Once Kate and Gary fought over a comment that Gary made and they stopped seeing each other. After a week Gary tried to call truce but Kate was still not ready to reconcile. So Gary went to her house with flowers and cake, apologized and promised that he won’t do it again. Since then they have made a rule of speaking whatever they feel and not carrying any grudge inside. So, if you survived the first fight with grace marks, it is time to confess your love also.
When you can stick together
You’re so beautiful
But that’s not why I love you
And I’m not sure you know
That the reason I love you, is you
Being you, just you
Yea the reason I love you
Is all that we’ve been through
And that’s why I love you
People say tough times take test of true love. Well, if you had faced tough times together and come out of it you know that you are really in love. Otherwise you have to think and decide how you would tackle difficult situations in life. One thing is for sure, tough times would come, and nobody can evade them. Things may get difficult with time, there can be financial problems, there can be fights and you may find out that the other person has changed a lot. Are you ready to stick to each other when things get tough? If yes, you must tell your boyfriend that you are in love.
When you are your best with your partner
When we start dating someone, we usually highlight our best qualities. Men are polite, caring, chivalrous and romantic. Women are sexy, charming, beautiful and well behaved. However, with time, when we get familiar with each other and the initial excitement dies, we put our guards down. The real self peeps out. You may find out that your boyfriend doesn’t like to be dictated or that he spends too much time with his male friends. Similarly women can be cranky at times, irrational and demanding.
Can you be your real self with your boyfriend? Can you tell your girlfriend that you snore at night? If you can be your true self with your partner and also accept him or her wholeheartedly, it is time to say, I do.
When the company only matters
Dating is fun. We love visiting exotic restaurants for dinners. We love the idea of getting attention and care. Gifts, flowers, chocolates, dancing together and enjoying ourselves – all these are the fancy things that come with dating. However, what about the mundane things?
Things like sipping coffee sitting on the front porch in your pajamas with your boyfriend by your side? Preparing breakfast early in the morning when all that you want is some more sleep? Walking in the rain as you tell him about your last affair? These are the most common moments that occur in our lives and if you can do these with your partner and still relish life, yours is the most ideal relationship.
When you are ready to walk the extra mile
Love is not about big deeds but about the small things that we are ready to do for each other. How far can you go to make your partner happy? Do you pay attention to the little things that make him happy? Once Kate told Gary that she liked attending operas and so on her birthday he took her to her favorite opera. Kate knows that Gary likes pasta and so she often cooks it for him. When you are ready to walk the extra mile to make your partner happy, you know you are in love and that you should confess it.
Get one step ahead – do you compromise for your partner happily?
Compromise is what binds people together. Compromise is sharing and conciliatory, it is loving and kind and unselfish.
This is another sign of being truly in love. Do you drive down every weekend just to spend a few hours with your boyfriend? Do you buy her favorite chocolate whenever you are at the store? Do you spend time with him just to make him feel better when he is going through a rough patch? Going out of the way, compromising for your love and that too happily indicates that you should let your partner know how much you love him or her.
When you stand beside each other in hours of need
Once Kate became sick and was hospitalized. Gary accompanied her and even stayed there for three days. One night Kate woke up just to find Gary sitting on the sofa, looking at her. Her voice choked but that day she realized that they are made for each other.
Did you ever do something like this for your boyfriend? If you say yes, without a second thought, you know what that means. It is time to take your relationship a notch higher and enjoy the new status too.
How do you feel when you are together?
It’s how you feel when you are with your companion that should give you the clue to when and how to say I love you. Do you feel happy? Secured? Do you laugh a lot with your partner? When he is around, do all your problems seem less intimidating? If yes, he is the person for you and you should not waste anymore time in professing your love. Seldom we meet a person with whom we can be ourselves, have a great time and feel secured. If you feel this with your boyfriend or girlfriend you are lucky. Cherish the relationship and make sure that you keep on nurturing it.
Your opinion counts
You would know it is time to take your relationship to a different level when your opinion matters to your lover. Be it buying a shirt to taking up a new job, be it wearing a particular color to going for a movie, when what you feel, what you like and what you want matters more to your partner, you know it is time to give the relationship a new seal.
When your opinion counts more in the life your partner, you should understand that you have a strong position in his life and that indicates love too
When family and friends start liking you
This is definitely a strong sign. When he invites you to his family Christmas party and they shower you with care and love, you know you are really special to him. Usually family and friends reciprocate the feelings of their near ones, and in this case it’s a good sign that you are being accepted by all of them.
Similarly, if her friends start inviting you in their parties and consider you as a part of the group, relish as you know you are special to her too.
When you start planning for future together
I don’t know where to go. I don’t know what comes now.
Don’t worry,” Will said. “We’ll figure something out.
Liesl managed to smile at him. She liked that word: *we*. It sounded warm and open, like a hug.
May be one day you would discover suddenly that you have started planning for the future together. You are thinking of going for a long vacation, or asking your partner’s opinion on buying a car or changing your job. This is a lovely feeling as it tells you that your partner has become an integral part of your life. It also tells you that he or she has become indispensable in your life. then why not say those words now and take the relationship a step higher?
When you know a lot about each other
Do you know when your boyfriend feels irritated? Do you the favorite cartoon character of your boyfriend? Do you know why she cries every time she watches The Titanic? When you know a lot about each other and even the little and insignificant secrets, you trust each other. When you love to share everything with your partner, why not tell those magic words? When you get over your past, finally
When did you last check your ex’s Facebook profile? Can’t remember. Do you still have his letters hidden in your cupboard? No. so, you have totally got over the past relationship. You have healed, moved forward and found true love again that you no longer hold on to the memories of past relationships. Aren’t these signs to tell your partner how much he means to you? doesn’t your partner deserve to know the feelings you harbor for her?
Are you wondering what happened to your couple Kate and Gary? After returning from hospital Kate decided to open her heart to Gary. She wanted to keep things simple. When they met first after that incident in her favorite café she held his hand and said, I love you. Imagine her surprise when instead of replying in words, Gary took out a diamond ring from his pocket and held it in front of her. As Kate cried Gary held her in his arms and everyone present in the café cheered the couple.
Always remember this when you have any doubt in your mind about telling someone how much you care for him. “Strange how complicated we can make things just to avoid showing what we feel!” Don’t wait for any right moment to say “I love you”. Every moment is right to say these golden words. These are the most powerful words of the universe and can transform any mundane moment into magical. So, take a deep look within, ask your mind and soul and take the decision.
If you know you love your partner, just go and say it. Don’t restrain your feelings, don’t hide anything. As you say these to your partner, you would find the entire world telling you, “I love you.”