Name: What 41 women say draws them to a man or puts them off: Thai women on Pantip and women on Ask MetaFilter
Creator: HeyCrush
Published: 2026-10-17

Attract an Asian woman the way you'd attract any woman: pay attention to her, respect her and the people around her, and keep your word. "Asian women" covers dozens of countries, so there's no method for a type. Of the 21 women in our mostly Thai forum count who said what draws them, 17 named how a man behaves.

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Published November 1, 2026 · 25 min read

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Contents · 13 sections

How to attract an Asian woman: there is no method for a type What Asian girls like in a man: what mostly Thai women wrote What puts women off: the things you can check in yourself Approached as a type: why it can go badly How to flirt with an Asian woman without the type lines “Be dominant”: where that advice comes from, and how confidence differs from pushiness Not tall or rich? What women say about looks and money What “scientifically proven” means in dating studies The waiter, her friends and her family: why how you treat them counts Speaking a little Thai, and why being foreign isn’t enough Keeping your word, giving her room, and small courtesies How to court a woman Questions men ask about attracting Asian women

Attract an Asian woman the way you’d attract any woman: pay attention, respect her and the people around her, and keep your plans. “Asian women” covers dozens of countries, so there’s no method for a type. In our mostly Thai forum count, 17 of the 21 women who said what draws them named something he does; 5 named looks.

How to attract an Asian woman: there is no method for a type

Attract her the way you’d attract any woman you actually like: pay attention to her, treat her and the people around her with respect, keep the small plans you make, and leave out every line that’s about “Asian women” instead of about her. That’s the whole method. A guide goes wrong when it treats a category as a substitute for getting to know her.

A man listens closely as a woman talks across a cafe table in Bangkok, his phone face down — AI-generated image, HeyCrush

“Asian women” is a label that takes in women from Thailand, the Philippines, Japan, Korea, China, Vietnam, India, Indonesia and many more places, and women who grew up in London, Sydney or Toronto with parents from any of them. They don’t share one language, one religion, one idea of dating or one taste in men. Advice written for all of them at once is either so general it fits anyone, or it’s a stereotype.

To get closer to what women actually say, we read public forum threads in which women describe, in their own words, what draws them to a man, what puts them off, or how men treat them as a type. We found 41 women in 13 threads: 35 Thai women on Pantip, a big Thai web forum (8 threads, 2018 to 2026), and 6 women on Ask MetaFilter, a long-running English question forum (5 threads, 2009 to 2020), 2 of whom say they are Asian (one says Southeast Asian).