Lunch at her parents' house, third visit. Her aunt: Noi's husband pays her mother every month and built them a house.

Later, give her plain facts about your work and money to answer with

Smile, say nothing and never bring it up

First date, a cafe you suggested. She: Let me pay half.

Ask what she'd like: split it if she wants, or pay and let her treat you next time

Insist on paying, this time and every time

Split every bill to the baht from now on, without asking

Weeks before the engagement, her mother speaks through her. Her mother: Daughters in our village got 600,000 baht.

Agree a ceiling with her first, then decide together how to put it to her parents

Say foreigners don't pay sin sod

You told her early that you won't pay sin sod. She: It's fine. It's not your culture.

Ask whether she plans to pay it herself

Planning the household budget before the wedding. She: I send my parents something every month.

Ask what and from what, then agree a monthly figure you can keep up

Ask her to stop once you're married

Tell her to send whatever they ask

Finding a Wife in Thailand: Meeting, Courting and Marrying

Name: What happened to sin sod with a foreign partner or husband, as Thai women tell it on Pantip
Creator: HeyCrush
Published: 2026-10-11

To find a Thai wife, meet women the ordinary way, at work, through friends or on a dating app, and say early that you want marriage. Then talk about more than dates: where you'd live, what you earn and owe, and what each of you expects to put into a shared household.

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Published August 28, 2016 · Updated October 12, 2026 · 30 min read